How to use a vibrator for the first time

Are you a vibrator virgin? We all were once, so there’s no need to feel embarrassed. I’m a huge fan of fingering fun (see fun fingering techniques), but my climaxes tend to be bigger and better when I masturbate with a vibrator.

If you’ve not used one before you might feel a bit daunted by the idea of sticking a buzzy toy in your pussy or ass, but have no fear, the vibrator for beginner’s how-to guide is here!

Vibrators come in a range of sizes and styles and can be used for solo sex or to enhance play with a partner.

I’ve built my toy chest up over the years and it contains external, internal, and dual vibrators.

External vibrators such as clitoral vibrators your outer bits such as the clit, whilst internal vibrators like thrusting vibrators are inserted into your vag or butt.

G-spot vibrators are curved or have rounded ends, and others, such as the butt plug, are designed solely for bum fun.

My fave is the rabbit vibrator, a dual vibrator that provides both internal and external pleasure, double the fun? Yes, please!

If you’re a first-timer and want to use a vibrator to masturbate, you need to get to know your new toy first.

The best beginner vibrator is a simple one, with easy-to-use controls.

Make sure you read the instructions and play with the buttons. Familiarize yourself with the on/off button, toggle through the settings, and hold the vibrator against your bare skin to get a feel for the pulsations.

Once you’ve got to grips with your buzzy friend you can get down to business.

Before you whip your knickers off make sure you fully charge your vibrator.

There’s nothing worse than getting wet, feeling the pleasure build, and then coming to a grinding halt because your toy has run out of juice!

If you’re a nervous newbie, set the scene by finding a private space, dimming the lights, and making yourself comfy.

There are no hard and fast rules about how to use your vibrator, it’s all about doing what feels good. 

As with partner sex, I engage in foreplay before I engage in solo sex.

Foreplay gets me in the mood, and gets me nice and wet, making the vibrator experience even more enjoyable. 

Even if I’m dripping, I still tend to use my favorite water-based sex lubricant too.

I just find it cuts down on any friction and provides extra glide and slide, so I can fuck myself with ease.

You’ll find a variety of slippery substances on offer including water-based sex lubricants, oil-based sex lubricants, silicone-based sex lubricants (cannot be used with silicone toys), and hybrid sex lubricants (a mix of water and silicone), so choose the one that best suits you and your gadget. 

Fun ways to play with your vibrator 

You can use your vibrator in all sorts of ways.

If you want to stimulate your clit, try lying on your back, spreading your legs, and bending your knees.

Use your toy to caress and rub your clit, starting slowly and delicately and building if you need more pressure. You can fondle your tits or stroke yourself at the same time for added indulgence. 

If you’re keen on intense vaginal stimulation you might like the squat (good for those thighs too)!

Squat down and open your legs, insert your vibrator, and then try different levels of pulsations and movements with the toy.

You should be able to hit your G-spot, and hopefully achieve a knee-trembling climax to boot. 

You can go for a ride too.

Try lowering yourself onto your vibrator to feel it pulsing. You don’t have to push it right in, the vibrations can tease your lips and clit to get you revved up.

If you want more hold the vibrator steady and thrust on it as if you’re riding a nice big cock.

You can give your clit a stroke and caress your nipples to aid your orgasm.  

You can also enjoy backdoor fun with a vibrator.

Doggy position works well for this, and if you lower your face to the pillow, you’ll end up with your butt nice and high in the air.

Use your vibrator to tickle your butt hole and insert it for up-the-bum fun. You can use your other hand to rub your pussy or stroke your clit as you play with your ass.

I find masturbating calming, it de-stresses me when life is busy and helps me to chill out. It’s also a great way to boost your self-confidence, get to know your body, and find out what turns you on. 

It might not be for everyone, but I find jillin’ off in front of the mirror particularly arousing.

Maybe it’s the voyeur/exhibitionist in me, but showing off and watching myself at the same time always makes me super horny. 

Of course, your trusty vibrator isn’t just for solo play. You can also use your toy to pep up your sex life.

Read How to use a vibrator with a partner during sex.

Talk to your partner before you introduce your new gizmo though - don’t just creep up on your lover with a buzzing cock toy, they might not like it! 

You can use your vibrator to boost penis in vagina (PIV) sex, by using the vibrator to tease your clit or butt hole while your lover thrusts his cock into you.

You can also use it to tease your pussy while you give him a blow job (if you’re giving pleasure, you may as well receive some at the same time). 

My lover and I enjoy anal, and adding a vibrator to the mix ramps that up, there’s nothing like getting an ass pounding while having a pulsing vibe toying with your clit or nipples at the same time.

So, if you’ve been toying with getting a toy, I’d highly advise you to do it.

Start with a beginner-friendly vibrator before moving onto complex gadgets, or using the vibrator with your lover.

You’ll soon be frigging yourself with aplomb, juicing, moaning with pleasure, and cumming like there’s no tomorrow.

Say goodbye to vibrator virginity, and hello to mastering masturbation. 

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