How to use a vibrator with a partner during sex

I’ve spent many a night having rampant sex with my fave vibrator.

When you’re single, or your lover isn’t around, or you just need a pick me up, a pulsing, throbbing faux cock can give you exactly what you need. I've always been good at making myself squirt, but recently I decided to introduce my partner to my buzzy friend. 

I wasn’t sure how well it would go down, but figured using a vibrator with my lover could be fun. An extra pair of hands or another cock never hurts, does it?

Plus, we do love to s-experiment and extra stimulation for both of us will always be welcome in our boudoir.

Foreplay, penis in vagina, anal, oral, and more…

It's easy to get into a rut when it comes to fucking, whether you’re playing solo or with a lover.

It’s time to open your mind, there are plenty of creative ways to use a vibrator during sex with your partner.

I find using a vibrator during foreplay helps to get the party started.

Don’t make the mistake of going straight for the pussy, the vibrator can be used to stimulate both of you in numerous places.

Try running the vibrator up and down the inner thighs, and use it on the chest area to rouse the nipples.

Toggle through the levels and vibration settings, starting with subtle, barely noticeable vibrations.

If you’re not too ticklish you can even buzz the feet (not for me unless my lover fancies a kick in the face).

Hover over the genitals and delicately touch the most sensitive spots. Used well, the vibrator is the perfect warm-up tool to tease and tantalize. 

Moving on from foreplay, let’s explore what the vibrator can do for you to enhance good old penis in vagina (PIV) sex.

As a vagina owner, I don’t mind putting my hand up and admitting that I don’t always find it easy to cum through penetrative sex alone. I do love the sensation of a cock thrusting in and out of me, but sometimes (call me greedy if you like), I want a bit more. 

That’s where the vibrator comes into its own, my lover can pound me and I can use my sex toy to tickle my clit or tease my nipples (or my partner can do that for me).  

We have a few different sex toys to keep things interesting, including a We-Vibe Chorus, one of the couples vibrators, with a super fun SQUEEZE ACTIVATED remote control.

I’m a big fan of remote-controlled vibrators, I find them easy to use and I love being able to hand over power – he holds the remote and I wear the vibrator (hence the name - wearable vibrators).

Those of you who fancy apps or higher tech will definitely enjoy app-compatible vibrators more.

I’m giving up control and my partner can dictate my pleasure and I’m never quite sure when he’ll buzz me into action and whether I’ll be allowed to cum.

There’s something deliciously dark about teasing and edging. Being urged to climax and then stopping just short, only to feel those vibrations building again, it’s dirty Deja Vu and I love it. 

One thing I will say is that it took us a while to find the right position to maximize the winning combo of PIV sex and vibrator action.

We switched around a few times, I liked being able to hold the vibrator in just the right spot, and we found cowgirl worked well. I straddled my man and lowered myself onto his stiffy, riding his cock while letting the vibrator dance over my clitty. 

We also used the vibrator during doggie (the bullet vibrators or finger vibrators work best for this kind of fun), and we loved the intimate feel of using the vibrator during spooning sex too.

Having my partner snuggle in behind me and easing his dick into my wetness always feels lush, but the added thrill of a vibrating sex toy pressed to my vag worked wonderfully well. 

PIV sex is great, but if you like to have your pussy licked or to chow down on a juicy cock, you’re in for a treat. Oral sex fans can benefit from the vibrator too.

During cunnilingus, I like it when my partner gently rubs the vibrator over the hood of my clit while he tickles my lady bits with his tongue.

The vibrator comes in handy for fellatio as well, he gets a good long suck and I get the toy inserted into my hole – extra pleasure and a win-win. 

I’ve turned the tables once or twice too, licking and sucking his cock whilst using the vibrator near his balls or along the shaft.

My lover prefers a light touch, and I’d advise keeping the setting low to begin with!

You can always ramp up the power if he wants more. 

So that’s foreplay, PIV sex, oral sex, but let’s not forget you can go through the back door too.

Using an vibrator during anal sex can be an overwhelming experience.

Rub the vibrator against the vag and clitty or touch it against the nipples and other erogenous zones for heightened gratification as the penis slips in and out of the ass. 

You can also use an anal vibrator to combine PIV sex or oral sex with anal sex.

Using an anal-safe toy (flared, so it doesn't get lost) to tease the butthole and the surrounding area adds an extra dimension to play, especially when you’re being eaten, sucked within an inch of your life, or enjoying a traditional shag.

Double the fun? Yes, please. 

There are other naughty things you can do with a vibrator. Taking your waterproof vibrator into the shower for wet and wild sex can be pleasurable, but you’ll need to check your gadget is waterproof if you’re thinking of having some steamy fun together.

My partner and I like to combine BDSM and vibrators too.

Kinky fun isn’t for everyone but we regularly indulge in bondage.

I enjoy being restrained with cuffs, rope, or silk ties – having my wrists and ankles bound while being fucked with a vibrator is liberating, add a blindfold while you tease me, and I’m in heaven. 

How to choose the right vibrator 

There’s nothing weird about using a sex toy together – it doesn’t mean you’re not getting enough or aren’t being satisfied by your partner.

Vibrators can enhance your relationships and add sparkle to the bedroom.  

I like an unobtrusive gadget that doesn’t get in the way, but vibrators come in all shapes and sizes and designs, so you’re bound to find something to suit.

Be it a wand vibrator to buzz your nether regions, a rabbit vibrator, or bullet vibrator, browsing together can be great fun and another form of foreplay. 

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