Strap-on-Me Desirous Harness

Desirous is a vegan leather harness.

It fits more like a belt and the O-ring position allows the wearer to feel clitoral stimulation from the strap-on. 

Desirous features:

• Materials: polyurethane (92%), silicone (5%), metal (3%)

Size and material:

• 1/2 waist: 12" - 24" / 32 cm - 62 cm
• 1/2 leg: 5" - 11" / 14 cm - 29 cm
• Hips: Adjusts up to 51"

🔥 Pleasure Scale™ Rating

This Toy: 🎒 Bedroom Backup

Who is this harness for?

The Desirous harness is ideal for:

• Strap-on beginners looking for an entry-level harness that’s easy to wear and experiment with during partnered play.
• Folks with erectile dysfunction or early ejaculation who want to enjoy penetrative sex and maintain physical connection with a partner.
• People with limited arm or hand mobility who benefit from the ease of adjusting and wearing a belt-style harness.
• Users seeking clitoral contact via strap-on play—thanks to the O-ring placement that allows for external stimulation.

How to use the Desirous harness?

1. Choose a compatible dildo or attachment with a flared base that fits the O-ring size provided.
2. Adjust the waist and leg straps to your comfort using the belt-like closures; ensure it's snug and secure but not too tight.
3. Slide your dildo into the O-ring from the front and position the base firmly against the harness.
4. Perform a comfort check by walking or squatting lightly to make sure the straps stay in place during movement.
5. Use water-based lubricant on the dildo or attachment before penetration for a smoother experience.

Great positions to try:

• Doggy style: Excellent alignment and thrust control with added stimulation for the harness-wearer against the pubic bone.
• Face-to-face (missionary/saloon chair): Creates eye contact and intimacy for a connected session, while keeping the harness stable.
• Reverse cowgirl: Gives the receiving partner control over pace and angle while the harness stays comfortably buckled.

How to clean and care for the Desirous harness?

• Cleaning: Wipe the vegan leather with a damp cloth and mild soap. Avoid soaking or submerging in water.
• Hardware: Use a clean cloth to dry off any metal components to prevent rusting.
• Lubricants: Water-based lubricant only when paired with silicone or rubber attachments—avoid silicone-based lubes.
• Storage: Store flat or loosely rolled in a dry, cool place away from sharp objects and direct sunlight to preserve the material.

Harness practical use info:

• Versatility: Compatible with a variety of dildos and attachments featuring a flared base.
• Stability: Belt-style design offers good support and adjustability for a secure fit during movement.
• Accessibility: Adjustments are made with familiar buckle-style closures, making it easier for those with limited dexterity.

Additional information:

• Decreased sensation or erectile challenges: The Desirous harness allows for penetration with a toy, enabling continued intimacy.
• Mobility solutions: Helpful for individuals who may not be able to thrust continuously or maintain specific positions due to muscle fatigue or disability.

Special considerations when using Desirous:

• Mobility requirements: Requires some hip and leg movement to fasten the buckles and adjust fit.
• Flexibility: Users need to position toys into the O-ring and secure comfortably—flexibility around the hips or hands may be needed.