You asked:
My fiancΓ© and I are interested in toys that can help us progress towards anal fisting. We're at an intermediate level and currently use butt plugs. Can you recommend some suitable toys?
Grace:
I'd recommend looking into either the Tantus Inner Band Trainer or the Tantus Cone. The choice between them depends on the diameter you're aiming for and what she's currently comfortable with. Both of these toys have a conical shape, which is ideal for gradually increasing size without the need to buy multiple products, making your progression to fisting more manageable and cost-effective.
Frequently asked questions about progressing from butt plugs to anal fisting
Which toys are the best next steps after butt plugs?
Good next steps are conical trainers like the Tantus Inner Band Trainer and the Tantus Cone because their taper lets you increase girth gradually; other options include progressive plug/dilator sets, inflatable plugs (to slowly add girth), and large smooth anal dildos for maintenance.
How should I pick sizes and pace myself?
Start from the largest size you can comfortably wear for 10β20 minutes without pain, then increase girth in small steps (a rough guide is about 0.5β1 cm in diameter per stage or similarly small increments); practice short, frequent sessions rather than one long push, stop if you feel burning or sharp pain, and keep simple, photoβfree notes of diameters you tolerate so you can progress methodically.
What materials and toy features matter for training safely?
Choose nonβporous, bodyβsafe materials such as medicalβgrade silicone, glass, or stainless steel for easy cleaning; look for a smooth surface, a firm-but-not-razor-hard feel, and a reliable flared base or handle for safety, and avoid porous or poorly constructed toys that are harder to sanitize and wear out faster.
What lube and accessories should I always have on hand?
Use thick, longβlasting silicone lube for extended sessions; if you use silicone toys, opt for a compatible waterβbased or hybrid lube to avoid degrading the toy. Essentials include lots of lube, latex/vinyl gloves (optional), trimmed nails, condoms for toyβsharing, absorbent towels, and a lubricant applicator for deeper application; aftercare should include proper toy cleaning (or boiling for compatible silicone/glass) and condom use on shared toys.
What are the safest training techniques and etiquette?
Prioritize clear consent, safe words/signals, and frequent checkβins; warm up with smaller plugs, pelvicβfloor relaxation and breathing, and gentle tapping/pulsing. Move very slowly-insert to tolerance, pause to let tissue adapt, then deepen gradually. Allow rest days for recovery, maintain strict hygiene, trim nails, avoid training through infections, and seek medical attention for heavy bleeding or severe pain.
Do toys exist that actually mimic a hand/fist - and should I use them?
Yes-there are fistβstyle or handβshaped dildos, knot/ball toys, and inflatable trainers that can approximate a fistβs girth. Use these only after gradual progression; jumping straight to a fistβshaped toy risks tearing and serious injury, so treat them as advanced stepβups and use the same warmβup, lube, and safety checks as with manual fisting.