Anal Sex Basics

Sex educator Carlyle Jansen has all of the tips and techniques to ease readers into butt play and anal pleasure. Learn all of the sexiest secrets to fingering, licking, and using toys, and even erotic fantasy and role play. 

Anal Sex Basics covers everything a beginner will need, from choosing lube to learning the best positions. More than just technique, this guide also gives advice on bringing up anal sex with a partner and making it all as fun and safe as possible.

Anal Sex Basics features:

• A comprehensive beginner’s guide to anal pleasure
• Step-by-step techniques for fingering, rimming, and anal penetration
• Tips on overcoming common anal sex anxieties
• Guidance on discussing anal play with a partner
• Includes advice on toys, lube, prep, and positions
• Chapters dedicated to fantasy, role play, and enhancing intimacy
• Written by Carlyle Jansen, renowned Canadian sex educator
• 200 pages; paperback edition

Size and material:

• Dimensions: 6 x 0.5 x 9 inches
• Weight: 10.2 oz
• Softcover book
• Publisher: Cleis Press

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This Toy: 🧪 Curiosity Satisfied
Great for experimentation or first-timers dipping their toes in.

Who is this guidebook for?

Anal Sex Basics is ideal for:

• Curious beginners who want a comprehensive, no-pressure introduction to anal play.
• Partners exploring together and looking for ways to build trust and communication around anal pleasure.
• People overcoming anxiety about butt stuff who want expert-based reassurance and practical steps.
• Educators or therapists looking for a go-to reference to recommend to clients or students.

How to use the Anal Sex Basics?

1. Start at your own pace: Skim the table of contents to choose the chapter most aligned with your current curiosity or concerns.
2. Read with a highlighter or notepad: Mark down new ideas to try, prep tips, or techniques you’d like to practice solo or with a partner.
3. Share with a partner: Read key sections together to open the conversation and establish trust and consent.
4. Take notes before play: Bookmark or write down positions, safety advice, and lube tips for easy access in the moment.
5. Apply knowledge gradually: Take what you’ve learned and ease into anal play over multiple sessions—this book isn’t a 1-day manual; it’s a pleasure roadmap.

Great positions to try:

• Spooning: Great for beginners—intimate, slower entry, and easy communication.
• On all fours: Offers clearer access and allows for gradual depth adjustment.
• Face-down hips up (pillow under hips): Promotes comfort and better angle for those exploring with toys.

How to clean and care for the Anal Sex Basics?

• Cleaning: While the book itself isn’t used during play, keep it dry and clean. Avoid keeping it in areas of high humidity or near lubricants.
• Lube compatibility: Not applicable—but do read the lube advice inside for water-based vs silicone preferences.
• Storage: Store with other educational books or in a safe bedside space where it’s easy to refer back whenever inspiration or questions arise.

Guidebook practical use info:

• Reference-ready: Bookmark pages so you can return to favorite prepping tips and positions before play.
• Partner-friendly: Makes a great read-together date night activity, sparking ideas and helping comfort zones evolve.
• Confidence boosting: Empowers hesitant explorers with real techniques, body-affirming advice, and myth-busting facts.

Additional information:

• Decreased sensation: Has tips on gradual touch exploration that work for people with lower body sensitivity.
• Vaginal vs anal prep: Covers the different anatomy and stimulation styles, particularly helpful for beginners shifting from vaginal to anal play.
• Nervous beginners: Ideal for readers with anxiety around pain, mess, or embarrassment—every concern is compassionately addressed.

Special considerations when using Anal Sex Basics:

• Mobility requirements: None—it's a book! But it does provide positional modifications for different body types and physical abilities.
• Dexterity: Easy to flip and read with standard hand mobility. Consider an e-book version if page-turning is challenging.
• Reading comprehension: Written in a friendly, accessible style, perfect for all literacy levels and learning styles.
• Partner use: Encourages mutual respect and safety via communication tools and exercises inside.