Sex toys are never behind the time, they are evolving rapidly and often shock us with innovative products. One of them is definitely a strapless dildo, designed for vulva owners, that seems confusing and strange at first glance. 

But if you love challenges and experiments, a strapless dildo can become your new obsession. Forget the strap-on harness and start training your Kegel muscles, so you can get the most from this double trouble toy.

Wearing a strapless strap on dildo

What is a strapless strap-on?

A strapless strap-on is an innovative alternative to strap-on dildos with a harness. Strap-on dildos are amazing sex toys, but sometimes the harness can be annoying.

You have to put it on, adjust it and hold it in place, so it is not a grab-and-go toy. 

Even the biggest fans of strap-on dildos may find the straps and buckles irritating because sometimes we want to start using them without the preparation and adjustments.

Strapless strap-ons without the harness were created for immediate play and spontaneous fun.

They have a dildo for penetration on one side and a smaller bulb on another side that replaces the straps and should be inserted in the vagina.

A vagina owner holds a bulb inside with the pelvic floor muscles (also known as Kegel muscles), which requires stronger and tighter muscles. If you want to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, you can start doing Kegel exercises - a simple but effective way to tight these areas.  

Many strapless dildo models come with textured stimulators, bullets, or even rabbit ears that tease the wearer’s clitoris during intercourse.

Strapless dildos can be worn by vulva owners who can have fun with other people with vaginas and enjoy penetration and mutual stimulation. But that doesn’t mean couples or lovers can’t try them either - it is the perfect toy for vulva owners who love pegging people with penises.

Benefits of using a strapless dildo

Even if a strapless dildo looks scary and your Kegel muscles aren’t the strongest, you should still test this wonderful toy.

Owning a strapless dildo has many advantages:

  • No complicated straps and buckles to put on, so you can enjoy it quickly and without preparation;
  • The double stimulation of both partners with using only one sex toy;
  • Giver and receiver can climax together, as the bulb inside the wearer stimulates their G-spot while they penetrate their partner(s);
  • More skin-on-skin contact without the harness in the way that allows partners to be closer and enjoy more natural stimulation;
  • Sex with strapless dildos feels more intense and real because of skin contact and because both partners can enjoy one toy at the same time;
  • Different strapless dildo models will satisfy every lover, from curved and bulging shapes that stimulate G-spot and prostate to vibrating types that will make the play more exciting or even models with rabbit add-ons to tease the clitoris.

Putting in a strapless dildo

Placing a strapless dildo and preparing for the action can seem confusing to beginners. Where to put the dildo and how to hold it, you will wonder as you stare at your precious toy.

The bulb part goes into the vagina, and the weaver has to hold it there with the pelvic floor muscles. And that is the trick - the giver needs to have strong PF muscles to hold the toy in place and use it inside their partner.

Natural wetness and lubricant - we recommend using every sex toy with lube - will force a strapless dildo out. So, if your Kegel muscles are weak, you won’t be able to hold the toy inside you.

If you would like to experiment with a strapless dildo and have soft muscles, start doing Kegel exercises that will help you keep the dildo inside while playing.

When you can keep the bulb inside you, the main part (dildo) is ready, and you can start thrusting or pegging your partner. 

Don't get frustrated if your toy keeps falling out, and do Kegel training every day. In the meantime, you can use a strapless dildo belt until your muscles are tense and ready!

How to keep the strapless strap-on dildo in?

As already mentioned, the vagina owner holds the bulb with the help of Kegel muscles, which must be strong to keep the toy inside. It can take some time and practice to get used to strapless dildos. 

It is difficult for beginners to keep the bulb inside, especially with a combination of a slippery lubricant. Don’t get discouraged - practice and Kegel training will help you strengthen those muscles.

It is no secret that pelvic floor muscle exercises are great and recommended for you. Not only will you be able to keep the dildo in you, but also because of the many other health benefits!

Besides the exercise, you need to choose the right dildo as they are available in many models. Beginners should choose the dildos with bigger bulbs because they are easier to hold inside - smaller bulbs fall out faster.

If that doesn’t work for you, try different strapless dildos and positions while doing Kegel exercises daily.

Strengthening pelvic floor muscles

Kegel exercises can help penis and vagina owners strengthen their pelvic floor muscles. There are many reasons (pregnancy, aging, weight gain, etc.) that weaken the Kegel muscles throughout our lives. 

Weak pelvic floor muscles can cause discomfort and serious illnesses such as urinary incontinence (unintentional leakage of urine that can't be controlled).

Kegel exercises will strengthen these muscles and have many other benefits for your sexual health. It can help you relax your vaginal muscles (essential for those who suffer from painful intercourse) and increase your sexual arousal and vaginal lubricant. 

These simple “workouts” can even help you orgasm and bless you with stronger and multiple orgasms.

In addition, you will be able to easily and effortlessly hold the strapless dildo inside you. So, stop waiting and start doing your Kegels while reading this article.

You can buy Ben Wa Balls ("Kegel balls"), weighted balls that are available in different sizes and weights, and start using them every day.

You can also do Kegel exercises without any equipment. First, locate and identify your pelvic floor muscles - one way to discover them is to stop the flow of urine while you are on the toilet and urinate.

You will be able to feel them, but don't use this way to strengthen those areas. It is not recommended as an exercise, and you should only do it to identify these muscles. 

Once you know where your “Kegels” are, strengthen them, hold for 5 seconds, and release them for 5 seconds. Repeat 10 to 20 times in a row three times a day. 

It is better to spread the exercise throughout the day than to do it all at once. 

You can do your Kegels basically anywhere, anytime, and without any equipment. After some practice, you will be able to squeeze, hold and use a strapless dildo like a pro!

Tips for using a strapless dildo

To make the most of your new strapless toy, try the following tips:

  • Be consistent with your workout and do Kegel exercises every day or use Ben Wa balls. After one month, you will notice a difference.
  • Choose the right strapless dildo for you and your partner. If you are a beginner, we recommend a simple model with a large bulb that is easier to use.
  • Use a long-lasting and safe body lubricant that will improve play and prevent any discomfort or injuries.
  • Experiment with stimulating gels while using a strapless dildo and provide extra stimulation. Vagina owners can try clit-stimulating or/and G-spot-stimulating gel, and penis owners can have fun with prostate stimulating gel to maximize sensations. 
  • Bring other sex toys to the party and combine them with a strapless dildo for more joy and shaking orgasms.
  • Keep practicing with your toy, and have fun! It takes some time, mistakes, and strong muscles to really get the best from strapless dildos, but once you do, it may become your number one sex toy.

Where to buy a strapless dildo?

Strapless dildos are fun sex toys that can improve your play session and even take it to another level. Without the harness, you will have more skin contact with your partner, and the room temperature will boil with passion. 

Strapless dildos make intercourse more real, natural, and intimate. This toy is the perfect choice because it encourages you to tighten and train certain parts of your body that have health benefits. 

You should do your Kegel workout daily to improve your sexual health and prevent complications during aging, and not just to keep the toy inside you. 

A realistic, safe, and high-quality strapless dildo with cute colors and special futures such as rabbit ears and clitoral stimulators are waiting for you in our store.

Best strapless dildos to try

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Final words

Strapless strap-on dildo are a bit unusal but once you figure them out, they're super fun and interesting toys.

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How the heck do you use a strapless strap-on dildo? More importantly, how do you keep it in place?!?

Using a strap-on dildo is a popular activity for people of all sexualities and genders. Pegging (using a strap-on dildo by a woman to anally penetrate a man) has seen its popularity increase consistently over the past seven years. Lesbians have long practiced using a strap-on dildo to penetrate partners. These uses may be combined for a variety of activities during group sex.

So, what is pegging? How else can you use a strapless strap-on? How do you find a toy that will work for you? We have your answers!

What is a Strapless Strap-On?

A strapless strap-on is a dildo which consists of a small bulb or ‘horn’ and a longer dildo part. The horn fits into the vagina and is held in place with the Kegel muscles. The dildo end is then used to penetrate a partner.

The bulb piece takes the place of a strap-on harness used with other dildos for pegging and insertive play. These toys are designed to be worn by a person with a vagina. 

Why Would You Choose a Strapless-Strap-On Instead of a Harness?

A strapless option allows more spontaneity in play. You don’t have to pre-plan and put on a harness. You don’t have to struggle with a dildo hanging awkwardly while you do other types of sexy play. You don’t have to even think about using a strapless strap-on until the moment hits!

A strapless strap-on also allows both partners to be stimulated at the same time. The spur on the strapless strap-on provides a feeling of fullness in the vagina. Some are shaped in a way that the wearer gets their G-spot stimulated while they use it on a partner. Some even come with vibrating options, allowing a lot of stimulation for both partners.

Strapless strap-ons can offer a gender-affirming option for some folks. If you happen to be born with a vagina but feel like you should have a penis, the strapless strap-on provides you with one without decreasing your sense of stimulation or pleasure.

How Do You Use a Strapless Strap-on?

All models of strapless strap-ons work in pretty much the same way. The wearer inserts the bulb into their vagina and then uses the dildo extension to penetrate a partner. The biggest problem most users run into is how to hold onto the bulb. The vagina gets slick! Even without added lube, as a person with a vagina is stimulated, the vagina will lubricate which often fights keeping a firm grip on the bulb.

There are ways to improve your chances of holding on and keeping the strapless strap-on in place. 

Do Your Kegels

The Kegel muscles are the muscles which strengthen the pelvic floor. To locate them, when you are urinating, stop the stream of urine and notice which muscles engage to do this. Then return to urinating and notice which muscles relax. 

When you are not urinating, practice contracting these muscles for 10 seconds and then releasing them. Repeat this 10 times. You can do these exercises several times a day. This will develop the Kegels which help hold the bulb in place.

If you need help focusing on Kegel exercises, purchasing a toy to help you focus on the exercises and add some pleasure may be useful. You can opt for a set of weighted Kegel balls with vibration. This will make Kegel exercises both helpful and pleasurable. For people looking for a more high-tech option, the Elive is a toy which connects to your phone via blue tooth. It tracks your contractions and strength of the contraction, giving you instant feedback about the effectiveness of your exercising.

Do Not Clench Your Butt!

Some people will clench their anal sphincter and butt muscles thinking this will help contract their Kegel muscles and hold the strapless strap-on in place. Clenching these muscles does exactly the opposite! You lose grip power when you clench your glutes and anal sphincter. Relax these muscles to help keep the toy in place.

Pick the Right Model for You

While strapless strap-ons are based on the design of an upper case ‘L,’ there are differences in the designs which can make some models a better fit for you than others.

Bulb Size

The bulb size varies on strapless models. If you have a smaller vagina and do not enjoy large insertables, finding a smaller sized bulb will assist in keeping it in place. If you have a deeper vagina or enjoy large insertables, choosing a larger sized bulb may work better for you.

For people who want larger options, consider Fun Factory’s ShareVibe. The wearable end is over five inches in length and more than 19 cm in diameter. For most wearers, this will put the insertable end well past the G-Spot and provide a significant bulb to clench.

For people who enjoy a feeling of vaginal fullness but would like a smaller item to hold inside them, try the Strap Me On Vibrator. This vibe comes with a smaller egg-shaped bulb to hold inside your vagina while the stem connecting it to the dildo is very thin. The difference between the egg and stem means some wearers will find this dildo much easier to hold onto than other bulb shapes.

Dildo Size

The wearer is not the only party who has to be happy with the shareable dildo! When choosing a strapless strap-on, you want to make sure the dildo end will work for the person or people you plan to use it with.

Like the bulb size, the dildo end comes in a variety of size options. If you are penetrating someone who enjoys a deeper penetration, the insertable length of the dildo should be long enough to reach the spots they enjoy. If you are penetrating someone who is either new to penetration or who is new to anal play, you may want to choose a dildo which is shorter and more narrow than most of the options out there.

Using the Strapless Strap-On

The concept behind strapless strap-ons is that they can be used the same way a biological penis is engaged. The reality is, depending on your pelvic floor strength, your experience, and your ability to thrust, some types of sex can be more difficult with a strapless strap-on.

If you are penetrating a partner where there is some tightness or resistance (such as anal penetration), you will need significant pelvic floor strength to hold the strapless strap-on in place. If you are finding this to be difficult, try choosing a position where you can use your thighs to help hold the dildo in place.

Cowgirl

The person wearing the strapless dildo lies on their back while their partner straddles their waist. This allows the wearer to use their thighs as well as their Kegel muscles to hold the dildo in place. Additionally, their partner is the one engaging in the thrusting or riding of the dildo, minimizing the movement of the wearer.

This position is especially enjoyable if the bulb of the strapless strap-on offers vibrations. The wearer can lie back and enjoy the vibrations while their partner gets the joy of penetration and vibration at the same time!

Seated

In this position, the wearer sits in a chair or on the edge of a bed. Their partner straddles their waist and rides the dildo. This allows the wearer to hold the dildo in place with a combination of Kegels, thighs, and pressure of the seat against the base of the dildo. This is the most stable position to use a strapless strap-on for anal penetration of a partner.

What If It STILL Slips Out?

Sometimes, regardless of how many Kegels you do and how much you adjust your positions, the bulb will still slip out! This can be very frustrating.

If this continues to be an issue, there are solutions.

Buy a Harness

Having to use a harness for a strap-on is not the end of the world. In the past decade, toy makers have introduced a large number of designs and sizes to accommodate most bodies. They now come in lacy panty options, boy shorts, classic adjustable strap harnesses, and thigh harnesses. The variety of options allows a wearer to choose the ones which allow for the most stability and gender affirmation you desire.

If you originally opted for a strapless strap-on because it allows the wearer to get direct sensation when penetrating a partner, you may want to consider adding a dildo base cushion to strap-on play. These cushions are designed to provide stimulation to the wearer while they are using a strap-on with a partner.

Another alternative to a strapless strap-on, using a harness designed for the wearer to have an insertable toy at the same time as penetrating a partner will accommodate this. The Tomboi series offers a number of different harnesses which allow for double penetration, the use of vibrating bullets, and more.