You asked:
I live with my parents and don’t have much experience with sex toys. I recently got a new dildo, but I can’t seem to get it in, no matter how much I try. My old one was 1" in diameter, and this new one is 1.4", so I thought it wouldn’t be that different—but it just won’t go in. Any tips on what I can do?
Grace:
There are many reasons why you might be struggling with penetration, and if you are experiencing pain then it might be worth visiting a doctor who could access you for something like vaginismus.
However, before you start to worry, there are absolutely things you can do first to try and make penetration easier. For instance, what kind of lube are you using? A thicker one like Sliquid Sassy will be the most effective. It’s made for anal but works great for any hole, and it’s got that extra cushiony feel that really helps when you’re trying to ease in something a bit bigger than you're used to.
Also, I’d say start with your smaller toy and let yourself have a few orgasms with that first. You'll want to be as relaxed as possible, so wait for your parents to be out of the house and make sure to really set the mood! Good luck.