You asked:

I accidentally bought a dildo that turned out to be much larger than expected. It looks manageable online but is quite intimidating in person. Any advice on how to handle this?


Definitely start by investing in a good quality lube that provides plenty of cushioning; I highly recommend Sliquid Sassy, especially the anal lube version for its thicker consistency, even if you're not using the toy anally. 

Or, check other anal sex lubricants and find something you like.

If you're still finding it too challenging, consider purchasing a few small dildos to help you gradually "warm up" and train yourself to accommodate larger sizes. 

Also, focus on achieving plenty of orgasms during your warm-up sessions to ease the process.

Most importantly, always listen to your body and respect its limits—it might even surprise you with what it can handle. Good luck!

About the author


Grace Selena (she/they) is a queer, non-binary writer from Melbourne, Australia. She has been talking about sex toys online for almost a decade, with a collection now nearing the thousands.

Her popular blog, Princess Previews, has been ranked by Kinkly and Molly's Daily Kiss as one of the best places on the internet to find reviews of adult products, and they have also contributed their thoughts to publications such as BedBible, Sexual Health Magazine and O.School.

In her spare time she helps run the Alliance of Independent Sex Toy Testers, and can often be found in her garden with her cat, Crumpet, or tweeting at @PrincessPreview.