You asked:
I've experimented with household items (banana & cucumber) but never a dildo. What would you recommend for a total beginner, and can one dildo be used for both vaginal and anal play, or should I buy different ones?
Grace:
For your first dildo, I highly recommend choosing one made of silicone—it's the most affordable body-safe material, making it ideal for beginners.
Avoid purchasing from general marketplaces like Amazon where you might encounter counterfeit materials, and instead, buy from a trusted retailer like The Sex Shed to ensure authenticity.
For vaginal use one of the simple, small dildos from brands like DilDolls.
If you're also considering anal play, you might want to opt for something smaller and smoother, like the Tantus Silk S, which is less textured and easier to manage.
You can certainly use the same dildo for both vaginal and anal play, but not simultaneously.
Make sure to sterilize the toy between uses to maintain hygiene and safety.
Silicone is particularly advantageous for this reason.
Also, learn How to use a dildo for the first time.
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