Sex is good for you, but you don’t have to stick to straightforward intercourse in your quest for pleasure. Sex toys offer an alternative way to get your kicks, and nowadays you can purchase a wide range of gadgets and gizmos designed to arouse, including remote control sex toys. 

Welcome to the world of teledildonics, best defined as electronic sex toys controlled by technology. Forget fiddling with buttons and searching for switches, remote control sex toys are hands-free. Versatile and fun, you can use the toy to spice up your love life with your partner, insert it or put it inside a pair of tight-fitting panties and you’re good to go.  

But what if you’re in a long-distance relationship or your partner spends periods away from home? Thankfully, you don’t have to miss out on the action. the remote-control sex toy can be used from afar so you can still enjoy intimate moments together. Solo players can have a good time too. You can use a remote-control sex toy to pleasure yourself, no partner required! 

Remote control sex toys vary from design to design. Some are best used in the same vicinity e.g.; the wearer could be in the bedroom and the controller sitting in the lounge. Others can work via an app on your mobile phone which allows the toy to be controlled from anywhere. 

You’ll find a whole range of remote-controlled sex toys on offer, from vibrating butt plugs to vibrators designed to arouse the g-spot and sucker toys to stimulate clit. Other products include sleeve masturbators to pleasure the penis and insertable vibrators for intense stimulation. 

If you’re thinking of investing in your own or already own a remote-control sex toy, you’ll want to know how to get the best from your tool. We’ve come up with a few creative ways to make sure you maximise the pleasure and enjoy the play. 

Ways to play with remote control sex toys

Boost your bedroom antics 

Let’s start with the simple option, taking your remote-control sex toy to bed with you. It doesn’t matter if your partner is with you or if you’re alone, it’s a good idea to familiarise yourself with your remote-control sex toy. Get comfy and take your time – ease yourself in and enjoy the vibrations and rhythms. 

Clean up your act 

Housework and chores are never top of the list when it comes to having fun but you could make things more interesting by using remote control sex toys to put a spring in your step. Opt for a hands-free vibrator in the vagina or go for a vibrating butt plug in the anus. Either way, you can take your mind off the ironing or vacuuming for a while and enjoy the tingling sensations in your nether regions. 

Embrace long distance love 

Long-distance relationships can prove challenging, especially when it comes to intimacy and sex. If you spend time apart from your partner you can use remote control sex toys to keep the fires of passion burning. This is where the tech comes in, thankfully you don’t have to be an IT whizz to get things set up, but you will need Bluetooth. Connect your toy to the mobile phone App and then invite your partner to “pair” with you. Let your partner take control from wherever they are as you writhe and squirm in ecstasy. 

Explore Domination & submission

If you’ve ever fantasised, or are interested in Domination and submission, remote control sex toys can be used to facilitate power exchange scenarios. Hand over control to your partner and let them dictate the speed, frequency, and intensity of the vibrations. Losing control can prove very sensual, especially if you’re being stimulated without being touched and are left wondering what’s coming next! If you’re in the same room, your partner can take on the role of dominator and voyeur as they control play and watch your reactions. You can enjoy a spot of exhibitionism as you submit and put on a show. 

Dine out in style

If you’re going out for a nice meal why not inject more seasoning by adding a remote-control sex toy into the mix? Begin with low rumbles to gently stimulate as the starter arrives, ramp things up for the main course, and take things up another level for dessert. By the time coffee arrives, you’ll be holding onto the table akin to “When Harry Met Sally” style trying to hold in a loud and proud orgasm. 

Go for a stroll

When you’ve had a busy week a nice long stroll in the fresh air can do you the world of good. Speed up your pace by inserting a sex toy before you set foot out of the door. Give the remote to your partner and let them take charge, but beware, you might find yourself hopping and skipping your way down the path! If you’re a solo player challenge yourself to walk a mile or two without getting overly excited – see how far you can get! 

Shop til' you drop

Shopping can be great fun if you’re buying goodies such as clothes and shoes, but if you’re pushing a trolley around a supermarket, it can be a tiresome way to spend your afternoon. A remote-control sex toy will add a new dimension to browsing the aisles – especially if you’re reaching up to a high shelf or stooping down to retrieve a bag of sugar from the bottom shelf! 

Shhhhh…. Quiet please! 

This idea isn’t for the faint-hearted, but once you’re more experienced in remote control sex toy play you can take things up a notch by visiting somewhere considered a little more taboo. What do libraries, theatres, cinemas, churches, and yoga classes have in common? They are places where people are expected to be quiet, which is very tricky when you’ve got a sex toy rammed into one of your holes! 

Sext, flirt & squirt

Flirting can be a real turn-on, and when you’re turned on you tend to flirt more. Get horny by inserting a remote-control sex toy whilst you send naughty messages to your partner outlining exactly what you’re doing. 

If you find it too hard to type whilst you’re focused on naughty fun you could call instead, or better still place a video call and show them what you’re up to. Just make sure the call is private and there are no prying eyes. 

Read erotica and watch porn

Porn movies and erotic novels can get your pulse racing, especially if you’re watching or reading together. Combine your remote-controlled sex toy with a steamy flick or take it in turns to read excerpts from a titillating book to one another. The heady mix of physical sex toy stimulation combined with mental stimulation should be more than enough to get you both going. 

Shake your booty

Boom shake the room and shake up your climax too. Invest in a vibrator that you can sync to music and you can feel the rhythm in more ways than one. If you’re feeling shy put on music in your kitchen or lounge and dance the night away there. Alternatively, head out to a bar or club and really feel the throbbing beat! 

Play naughty games

If you’re planning a fun night of play as a couple, a threesome, or as a group, sex games are a great way to break the ice and set the tone for your evening. Stuck for ideas, here are a few to get your creative juices flowing:

Poker face

Can you maintain your composure with a sex toy buzzing inside you? If you wince, fidget, or make a noise you have to pay the price. Forfeits should be decided in advance and could include stripping, knocking back a shot, or sharing a sexy secret. 

Hold your position

The person wearing the sex toy should be instructed to get into a particular position and hold it for a set time e.g., 30 seconds, 1 minute, or more (depending on the position)! It can be difficult to keep still with a vibrator pulsating in your pussy or anus.

Who’s buzzing who?

This game works well if you’re playing as a group. You’ll need a few “controllers” and “wearers” for this to work! The inserters leave the room and one inserts a sex toy, whilst the controllers decide who will be in charge of the remote control. When the wearers return the chosen controller switches on the sex toy, ramping up the power slowly. The controllers have to work out which wearer has the sex toy! 

The special word

This one can be used at home or out and about. Choose a word (try and make it relevant to your setting) e.g., if you’re at a restaurant the word could be “menu”, and if you’re at home watching a rom-com the word could be “love.” Every time someone says the word the controller increases the intensity of the toy. 

Get hands-on with solo masturbation 

Solo players and couples alike can use a remote-control sex toy to aid masturbation. Playing with yourself is a great way to find out what turns you on, and to get to know your body better. If you’re playing alone, you can enjoy hands-free fun by setting the remote-control sex toy to vary its speed and use the app to set patterns or sync to music. You can decide where and when you play, so if you’re facing a long and dull train commute on a Monday morning why not cheer yourself up with a pulsing vibrator to kick-start the week in the right way? 

Get together with couples masturbation 

You can also masturbate with your partner – show and tell can be a useful teaching tool if your other half needs a little help on the orgasm front. It can also be a huge turn-on for you both and enhance foreplay. Watching your partner perform and using the remote-control sex toy to add extra oomph will leave you both feeling revved up and ready for full-on sex. 

Venture to a club 

If you’re feeling brave you could head to a sex club or kink event. Sex toys are welcomed and you don’t have to worry about making too much noise or getting too excitable. You can let go of your inhibitions and play in a communal area, or you can find a private room and enjoy an intimate moment together. 

Things to consider before you buy a sex toy

Before you rush out and buy a remote-control sex toy yourself there are a couple of things to consider, such as how much you want to spend and what type of play you would like to do. You also need to think about noise levels, if your toy is too loud you won’t be able to use it discreetly. 

It’s a good idea to try out your remote-control sex toy at home before you venture out to use it in public. Get comfortable with its workings, the last thing you want is an out-of-control sex toy buzzing loudly inside you as you try and stay calm on the train journey home! 

Read reviews and when you’ve chosen and purchased your ideal toy read the instructions too. If there’s a storage pouch use it (to keep your sex toy away from prying eyes and to keep it clean and in a good condition). You’ll need to clean your toy before and after each use too. 

Best remote control sex toys

Affordable remote control sex toys

The Vedo Niki

The Vedo Niki offers a delightful combination of versatility and power. Whether you're looking for solo play or shared experiences, this sleek remote control toy ensures hours of intense pleasure and memorable encounters.

Highlight: price point 

We-Vibe Chorus

Enhance your intimate moments with the We-Vibe Chorus, a couple's toy that takes pleasure to new heights. With its adjustable fit and dual-stimulation features, this remote control gem allows partners to explore simultaneous pleasure and strengthen their connection.

Highlight: the squeeze remote, the harder you squeeze it, the harder the vibrations

Review: We-Vibe Chorus review on Spices of Lust

the reliable remote control sex toy

We-Vibe Moxie

The We-Vibe Moxie is a game-changer when it comes to discreet pleasure. With its powerful vibrations and comfortable design, you can enjoy tantalizing stimulation anytime, anywhere, without anyone knowing.

Highlight: sturdy magnetic clip that holds it in place, rumbly vibes

Review: We-Vibe Moxie review on Spices of Lust

OhMiBod Club Vibe 3.0H

Experience the thrill of public play with the OhMiBod Club Vibe 3.0H Panty Vibe. This discreet and innovative toy brings excitement to a whole new level, allowing you to indulge in pleasure as the vibrations synchronize with your favorite music or ambient sounds.

Highlight: vibes sync to music

The best remote control sex toy

Lovense Lush 3 Egg Vibrator

The Lovense Lush 3 Egg Vibrator offers a range of enticing features that make it a popular choice among pleasure-seekers.

With its powerful vibrations, this toy delivers intense sensations that can lead to mind-blowing orgasms.

Its app-controlled functionality allows for customizable experiences, giving you the freedom to explore various vibration patterns and intensities.

The discreet design of the Lovense Lush 3 makes it convenient for both solo play and couple's fun, and its long-lasting battery ensures extended pleasure sessions.

Overall, the Lovense Lush 3 is a versatile and user-friendly vibrator that can enhance your intimate experiences and provide hours of sensual delight.

Highlight: strong, versatile and FUN app, toy design

Ready to play with your remote-control sex toy? 

Remote control sex toys can boost your libido and increase your fun. There are so many ways you can incorporate them – foreplay, masturbation, naughty games, not to mention using remote control sex toys when you’re going shopping or to a swanky restaurant. 

If you’re a solo player you can play hands-free and get yourself worked up to orgasm and if you’re coupled up you can use the toy together to enhance your play. Long-distance lovers benefit too, you can still thrill one another from afar. If you’ve not tried a remote-control sex toy yet what are you waiting for?