How can I use sex toys for edging or prolonged pleasure?

Anticipation of pleasure is, in itself, a very considerable pleasure – David Hume 

Edging involves building up the sexual tension until you’re about to climax, and then slowing down or stopping, before going at it again.

You can use sex toys in creative ways to edge yourself or your partner, and if you do it right, you’ll be rewarded with memorable orgasms.

Introduction to edging

I’ve edged myself a few times with a sex toy and edged my partner too.

When I first heard about the technique I had reservations, after all the thought of delaying an orgasm sounded depressing. I felt stopping and starting would prove frustrating and annoying.

However, edging with a sex toy is a great way to enhance solo play and spice up sex with your partner. 

When you feel that unmistakable stirring of an imminent orgasm you stop for a moment until the feeling subsides.

When you go again, you’ll be more heightened and when you do cum, you’ll be rewarded with an intense climax and sense of satisfaction.

I also enjoy edging as it prolongs my pleasure.

Life is busy enough as it is, without trying to barrel my way through masturbation or sex with my partner.

I say savor the sexual moments and the orgasms that go with them. 

Creative ways to edge with sex toys – solo or with a partner 

I sometimes like to masturbate in the morning to set me up for the day ahead, but I tend to find edging is better in the evening or at weekends when self-love is more leisurely.

There are plenty of toys I can use to take edging up a notch, and I know my partner likes to use sex toys on occasion when he edges and wanks off too. 

I’ll often edge myself with my fave type of sex toy, my wand vibrators.

My versatile gadget can be used to stimulate my erogenous zones, but I tend to hone in on my clitty, as teasing my love bud drives me wild.

I can adjust the intensity of the pulsations to suit, and enjoy building up to a crescendo, then stopping and taking a moment, before going back in for more. 

My partner has his favorite sex toy type when he’s jerking off and edging, and that are his vibrating cock rings.

As a penis owner, he discovered cock rings some time ago and likes the sensation of slipping one over his dick.

If you’re not familiar with cock rings you simply pop it over the shaft and wear it as the base of your penis. (and sometimes over the testicles).

Cock rings stem blood flow and can make you harder for longer, and with a vibrating one, you can control how intense you want to go. 

Read How to use a cock ring in 11 exciting ways and How to use a vibrating cock ring with your partner

Using sex toys at the same time, but separately can be fun too.

We sometimes masturbate in the same room, and find it a huge turn-on listening to one another moaning and ecstasy.

Watching one another use toys is also a bit of a learning curve. It’s good to see how my partner likes to wank and edge, and interesting to see how he incorporates a sex toy into the mix. 

My other half likes it when I put a show on too.

I love lying back on the bed, legs spread and pussy wet. I finger myself, teasing my lips and stroking my clit until I get that unmistakable urge for more.

I’ll pull out my Magic Wand and start to tease myself, rubbing the wand against my genitals. I feel the sexual excitement build and just as I’m about to cum, I move the wand away. The frustration cuts through me, and the sexual thrill runs deep. 

As well as masturbating together at the same time we also take it in turns to edge one another using sex toys.

I enjoy teasing my lover by bringing him to the edge and then pulling him back from the brink.

I’ve used a cock ring to do this and I’ve also tried vibrating prostate massagers.

The one I use has multiple settings to tease him with varying pulsations, from gentle to harsh. The unexpected can be sexually stimulating.

We also have a selection of adjustable clitoral suction vibrators that my partner enjoys using on me. The air pulse technology tantalizes my clit, and when he stops and starts, I end up begging him to let me cum.

This weaves itself well into power exchange games. I enjoy it when my partner handcuffs me, blindfolds me, and then uses the suction toy to drive me wild.

He’ll often tell me what he’s going to do next, and when he stops, he makes me count to twenty before he starts again. 

Top tips for using sex toys to edge

It might sound touchy-feely but getting to know your body is the best thing to do in prep for edging.

Be mindful of how aroused you are and the points where you feel you’re about to pop. If you recognize a forthcoming climax, you can identify when to pause the action. 

Whether you’re edging alone or with a partner you can still get in the mood for sex by using soft lighting, putting on a few sexy tunes, lighting a scented candle, and pouring yourself a drink.

Make sure you have somewhere private lined up to avoid any awkward moments. 

Like all toys and sexual games, talk about what you’re going to do before you begin to play.

Set boundaries and don’t forget to identify safe words/signals just in case you want to slow things down or call a halt. Use lubrication to ensure the toy can be used comfortably and choose a high-quality lube that suits the toy. 

Finally, look after your sex toy.

If you want to edge yourself to oblivion with a sex toy, you’ll be able to do it for far longer if you take care of your device. Clean it after each use and store it safely.

Read How do I clean and maintain my sex toys?

Happy edging! 

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