How to masturbate if you have a vagina? 10 ways to try - techniques and positions

Mood boosting, stress relieving, and a great way to get to know your body, as a vagina owner I love to masturbate on a regular basis.

It’s tempting to stick to the same tried and tested method to reach a satisfying climax, but variety is the sexy spice of life.

I like to explore, trying out different techniques, methods and positions to keep self-love fresh and fun. Check out how to masturbate if you have a vagina.

1. Indulge in fingering fun

Never underestimate the art of fingering. It doesn’t matter if your lover is inserting a digit or two, or if you’re fingering yourself - fingering fun is for everyone.

Engage in foreplay by stroking and caressing your erogenous zones before moving your fingers to play with your vulva or clitoris. Continue to rub if you like the feeling, alternatively slip a finger or two into your wet pussy for light thrusting.

2. Enjoy sex toy stimulation

Another form of penetrative masturbation, a sex toy can give you a thrilling buzz. With so many sex toys on the market it’s tricky to choose just one, that’s why have a good selection in my toy box.

From G-spot vibrators to bullets, magic wands to suction cup dildos, the right gadget or gizmo can make a huge difference. Use lube to ensure you minimize discomfort and maximize pleasure.

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3. Swap positions

You might always cum when you lie on your back with your trusty rabbit vibrator gently humming against your clit, but how about a change?

Try flipping onto your stomach mid masturbation, or rolling onto your side. If you’re feeling energetic raise your legs to the sky and open them wide!

Switching positions midway keeps things fresh, and you could benefit from an ever bigger and better orgasm.

4. Treat yourself to back door action

You don’t have to go all the way with anal to get pleasure from it. The anus has a huge amount of nerve endings, so simply rubbing your finger around your butt hole could provide a welcome tingle.

It goes without saying lube is essential for bum fun, as the anus doesn’t produce lube naturally (unlike the vagina).

Read more: How to train your ass for anal: prep, foreplay, and making it feel amazing

5. Get wet in the shower or bath

Take your solo session from the bedroom to the bathroom - in my opinion the wetter the better. Get naked, jump under the shower and give your bare skin a good lather with suds.

You can use your fingers, a sex toy or detach the shower head and use that to give yourself an intimate massage.

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6. Try a clever combo

Stimulating more than one area at a time is a clever way to bump up the pleasure level.

Caress your thighs and tits, rub your pussy lips and clit and don’t be afraid to reach around to tickle your anus. You could also double up on the sex toys with anal beads up the butt and a vibrator to gently work the clit.

7. Tune into porn and erotica

Porn has moved on, you can still pick up a porno with a cheesy storyline, but nowadays erotic movies are generally classier.

There are plenty of websites to browse too, and if you prefer audio over flicks you can listen to audio erotica.

Listening to a sexy story can be a great way to lose yourself in a sexual moment while you masturbate.

8. Enter fantasy land

When you’re playing solo, you can imagine any scenario you like. Simply close your eyes and drift off to your deepest and darkest fantasy. Will it be a threesome with two sexy guys?

Or maybe you’ll get licked out by a hot girl. Perhaps it’s getting dressed up in lacy lingerie, getting tied up and spanked or it you might get a sexual kick from imagining sitting in a vat of cold custard.

That’s the beauty of fantasy land - you can masturbate to whatever rude thoughts you like, and you don’t have to tell anyone…shhh.

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9. Participate in mutual masturbation

Masturbation can be hot when you do it solo, but if you do have a lover, you can get them involved too from time to time. Mutual masturbation can be a massive turn on.

Play with yourself in front of your partner and enjoy the performance as they touch themselves in front of you.

Watching each other can be a huge turn on, and if you can sync your orgasms, even better. The couple that cums together, stays together.

10. Go on secret sexual exploits

Solo sex isn’t just for the bedroom. Get kinky in the kitchen or love yourself in the lounge. If you’re feeling brave you can even take your sexual exploits outside. I’m not suggesting you head to the supermarket, whip out a vibrator, pull your knickers aside and rub one off.

If you’re lucky enough to have a private outdoor space that’s not overlooked make use of that. Other options include using a sex toy with a remote control, and setting it off discretely whilst you’re out and about - the work commute will never be dull again!

Self-love for your vagina

Having solo sex can be just as much fun as sex with a lover, and whether I’m playing alone or with a friend I still like to get in the mood.

For me that’s a glass of wine, a scented candle, good music and lots of squishy pillows. However, masturbation is a personal experience, so feel free to do what feels right for you.

What feels pleasurable for one person won’t necessarily work for another. Some prefer a gentle touch, and like to lie back and enjoy a slow and leisurely fingering. Others prefer to use different sex toys, swapping positions and groaning loudly with pleasure.

As a vagina owner, masturbation is the perfect way to work out what makes your pussy purr with pleasure. Use self-exploration to get to know what works well for you, and don’t be afraid to experiment.