Vibrators, anal beads, and love eggs. I'm the proud owner of all sorts of sex toys, but my current fave has to be my double ended dildo.
With not one but two phallic shafts, my double dong provides double the pleasure. I can play solo by fucking two holes at the same time, or I can ask my lover to share the dildo fun.
If you fancy doing the double, read on to discover how to use a double ended dildo and check out my top tips for solo and partner play.
Choosing a double ended dildo
I have a couple of double ended dildos in my toy box. One is a long, soft flexible double ended dildo that can be bent for double penetration - very satisfying. If my lover wants to get in on the action, we can take one end each for dual thrusting.
The other looks a bit like a banana and feels rigid to the touch. I like a stiff cock, so the firmness is spot on for me.
Both turn me on, but I haven’t ruled out buying a third for my collection. There are plenty of double ended dildos to choose from, and I’m getting wet just thinking about a new toy.
Material wise, there’s polished and sleek stainless steel, glass (great for temperature play) and flexible, hygienic silicone.
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I can get a range of sizes too, be it an 8”, 12” or an extra long dong. The ends come in a range of shapes, sizes and textures, providing an array of pleasing sensations.
I always check out the weight too as I’m not keen on very heavy double ended dildo’s - the last thing I want is a wrist-ache when I’m fooling around.
Double ended dildo solo fun
My lover works away a lot, but I don’t miss out - I can masturbate using my double-ended dildo.
The curved design allows me to insert one end into my pussy and the other into my ass, and fuck myself until I climax.
If I fancy changing it up, I grab a pillow and prop my hips up, inserting one end into my vagina.
My double ended dildo has different shaped ends, so I can use the larger or smaller one, depending on my mood. I use the other end to guide the toy and thrust it gently in and out of my hole.
If my dildo is long enough (and I’m feeling flexible) I can lean forward and insert the other end into my mouth. There’s something dirty about sucking and fucking myself at the same time, and I get to practice my deep-throating as an added bonus.
Alternatively, I can use the double ended dildo coupled with another sex toy for a naughty thrill.
With the double-ended dildo inserted into my pussy or ass (or both), I can use a vibrator to gently tease my clit. Stimulating my love bud always seems to do the trick for me.
Insertion can be tricky at first, but that’s what my trusty lubricant is for. I smother the end of my toy with the wet stuff and liberally lube my hole(s) ready for easy and smooth penetration.
When I’m inserting it into my pussy I slowly push in the end and tilt the dildo. I angle my toy so the curve presses upwards towards my G-spot and I gently rock, easing the dildo into the pleasure zone.
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Double ended dildo partner play
I enjoy playing with myself, but double ended dildos are great for partner play too. There’s fun to be had by all, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. You can enjoy pussy to pussy action, pussy to ass fun, ass to ass amusement or pussy to mouth pleasure.
I am a big fan of using my double ended dildo for pussy to ass fun with my guy. He wasn’t too sure at first, but we used plenty of lube and now he’s a big fan too.
I think we both found it thrilling as I reveled in the G-spot sensation, while my lover had his P-spot toyed with and teased.
It took a bit of time to find our rhythm (and hot our respective spots) but it was so worth it. This is a good time to mention hygiene. Don't use the double ended dildo to penetrate the asshole and then another hole – no going from ass to pussy or ass to mouth.
We’ve also tried pussy to mouth pleasure, with one end of the double ended dildo between my vagina lips and the other between his face lips!
It was interesting watching my lover suck on my shaft while I rocked gently back and forth, feeling the bulbous tip penetrate my pussy. Turns out he’s pretty good at delivering a faux-blow job, and it made a refreshing change!
Over time we’ve learned that some positions work better than others.
One easy option is to lie on your back with one end of the dildo in your pussy. The other end can go in your lover’s mouth, ass or pussy, or they can use their hand to gently move the dildo. This gives them a hand free to rub your clit or massage your titties too.
Doggy style works well too, especially if you’re a fan of back door action. Get down on all fours and insert one end into your pussy or ass. The lover takes the other end in whatever hole they choose.
Remember - practice makes perfect, and whilst we’ve had success with both of these positions, we’ve found out standing up is a no-go - it’s uncomfortable and my legs got way too tired.
Next on the list for us is temperature play. We’re going to have a go at heating up the double ender or cooling it down before penetration.
I’m looking forward to experiencing the different sensations, and I might even ask my lover to blindfold me to heighten the sensory pleasure.
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Double ended dildo equals double the fun
With a wide range of play opportunities on the cards, you need a double ended dildo in your toy box and life.
Lube is your friend if you’re penetrating the ass or pussy, and like all new experiences, talk to your lover before you pull out your double dong, and when you’re starting out take your time. Always give your toy a good clean afterwards and store it wrapped and in a safe place.
As I always say, look after your double ended dildo and it will look after you.