Pegging or strap-on sex is making its way into the bedrooms of curious people on our planet.
Thanks to popular culture and influential references in series or movies such as Weeds, Broad City, The Wolf of Wall Street, and Deadpool, pegging is slowly normalizing.
Anal stimulation and P-spot stimulation leading to prostate orgasm is a mind-blowing experience.
Society needs to get rid of ideas about sex and its participants based on gender. If you love pleasure and rocking orgasms, you will love pegging.
Sexual pleasure is essential for sexual health and has endless benefits for individuals, couples, and lovers.
The pursuit of satisfaction and fulfilling sex life should not be conditioned by gender, sexual orientation, gender, or sexual stigmas and misconceptions.
Everyone can enjoy pegging and sexual experiments with their lover and sex toys!
What is pegging?
Pegging happens when one partner wears a strap-on dildo and anally stimulate their lover.
Sex columnist Dan Savage first mentioned the pegging in 2001, referring to role swapping in heterosexual couples where a woman uses a strap-on for anal penetration of her male partner.
Many still see pegging as an activity reserved for heterosexual couples, but the term has evolved over the years.
Today, pegging involves a combination of strap-on dildo and anal sex where gender or sexual orientation doesn’t play a significant or defining role!
Pegging is not about being dominant, and the receiver is not automatically submissive. Many people who cherish BDSM often practice pegging with reverse roles as our society imagines - a submissive participant peg the dominant one.
But most receivers feel submissive during pegging while their partner penetrates them anally. And because of this role, they are even more fond of pegging!
But this doesn't mean that they are submissive in terms of BDSM, which requires consent before sexual intercourse.
Why does pegging feel good?
- People with prostate can experience prostate orgasms during anal penetration. And as far as we know, the P orgasm is like the king of all orgasms.
- Even if a person doesn't have a prostate gland, anal stimulation can still feel amazing! The anus has thousands of nerve endings, so playing with this area can be extremely satisfying for the receiver.
- Pegging can replace the traditional roles of partners, which can be a breath of fresh air and enjoyable for both.
- The giver can control penetration and pleasure, which stimulates their mind.
- Most people like to be pegged because they love power play and being penetrated by their partners.
- Many receivers can enjoy a "submissive role" that they don't normally experience.
- Pegging is an intimate and open type of sex in a relationship that builds a special bond between partners.
- It is often used for kinky and BDSM sessions where both partners - Don and Sub - can be receiver and donor and enjoy different power dynamics.
- Vagina owners can reach orgasms because wearing a strap-on dildo and pegging can be very stimulating and feels like dry humping.
Benefits of pegging
- Just as most people with vaginas have a G-spot, people with a prostate have P-point hiding in the anus. The only way to experience an intense P-orgasm is to enter and stimulate their back door.
- Stunning prostate orgasms that can't be compared to regular climaxes are the main reason why most penis owners love pegging.
- Givers can boost their confidence and sexual performance.
- Improve sex life and sexual health.
- Pleasure, pleasure & more pleasure!
- Givers with the clitoris can reach orgasm during pegging if they use strap-on dildos for clitoral stimulation.
- The change in power dynamics can be liberating and satisfying for both participants.
How to prepare your partner for pegging?
If you want to peg your partner, first introduce this idea to see if they want it too - you know it takes two to tango and pegging.
If you hope to be pegged by your lover, talk to them and check if they share the same fantasy.
Don't bring this topic up during sex or while food shopping, but tell them in a relaxed environment, explain why you want it, and ask for their opinion.
No matter how popular pegging is becoming, it can be a no-go zone for many partners regardless of their sexual orientation or gender. They may immediately disagree, respond with shock, or tell you they need to take time to think.
But many people with vaginas and penises secretly dream of pegging their partner or getting pegged by their lover. So, it may be more than possible that your partner would like to try, but they didn’t have the opportunity or the courage to ask you about it.
Once you both agree that you want to experiment, use our tips and tricks to help you have a pleasant and want-to-do-it-again experience.
General pegging tips and tricks
- Talk it through. Ask questions and express your needs, wishes, and expectations.
- Shop together. Choosing your precious strap-on dildo and other goods together will make the whole planning even more exciting.
- Set a safe word. Even if you don’t combine pegging with BDSM, a chosen name can be a great choice. During ecstasy, you can get carried away, and the safe word is your call to reality.
- Practice anal play. You can also warm up a few days before a big P event with your fingers or anal sex toys like butt plugs or anal vibrators. A little exercise won’t hurt anyone.
- Lots of lube. Don’t even think about going back there without your favorite lubricant (choose it here if you don’t have a favorite type yet). Silicone lube is best for anal sex as it lasts longer than water-based and is thicker but can destroy silicone dildos. Check the toy materials and then buy a suitable lubricant.
If you are the receiver...
- Practice anal play with butt plugs and anal vibrators or dildos.
- Prepare yourself before and wash the anus area with water and soap in a shower or bidet.
- Breathe and try to calm down if you are nervous - anal sex requires a relaxing body and mind.
- Enjoy extended foreplay to get ready and excited for pegging.
- Communicate with your partner and tell them how you feel and whether you like the dildo and sensations. If you feel pain or discomfort, stop it and take a break.
If you are the giver...
- Before a big P event, try a strap-on dildo and get used to the toy and movements. You can mimic sexual penetration by thrusting and moving your hips. Remember to adjust the harness and all the fasteners - the strap-on toy should be comfortable and have a securely attached dildo.
- Start with foreplay and prepare your partner for pegging by kissing, touching, massaging, teasing, and with other naughty things that make them horny.
- Proceed slowly and first stimulate their anus with your fingers or toys before you enter with the strap-on.
- Add lube and re-apply it often because the anus doesn't produce natural lubricant. Without it, anal penetration can be painful or uncomfortable for the receiver!
- Check on your partner, ask them how they feel during the act, and listen to their needs and desires.
Pegging sex positions
For beginners in pegging, we recommend simple positions so that receivers can enjoy anal stimulation comfortably and the givers can control the strap-on dildo.
Anal sex requires more time, tenderness, and a lot of lubricants.
Rider
The giver lies on the back, and the receiver rides a strap-on dildo on top. It is a great position for beginners in pegging because the receiver has complete control over the movements, rhythm, and depth.
Pillow missionary
The receiver lies on the back, their hips supported by a pillow, and with knees raised so that the donor can enter anally from the top. An intimate position that allows both participants to gaze into each other’s eyes and kiss, which can be quite stimulating.
Pegging doggy style
The receiver kneels on all fours, and the giver takes them from behind. A favorite position for many because it allows the receiver to masturbate while enjoying anal penetration.
Choosing a dildo for pegging
There are so many different dildos that choosing the right one can be an overwhelming task.
For easier dildo hunting, we recommend dildos from non-porous materials because they are easy to clean and don't trap bacteria and germs.
Dildos for anal stimulation need to be thoroughly cleaned, so non-porous materials are your best choice.
Even if you and your partner love big toys, start with smaller and thinner dildos.
You will have enough opportunities to size up, so it is better to buy something small and comfortable than find out you have an oversized toy during pegging.
The texture is optional because not everyone likes to feel a textured dildo in their booty!
The same goes for style - some people love realistic dildos, while others get turned on by fantasy models.
It is easier to choose the right dildo with your partner, as you can choose the one that suits you both.
Here's our selection of dildos suitable for pegging.
Choosing a harness for pegging
We recommend that you buy the dildo together with the harness and double check that they are compatible.
The size of the dildo must fit in the ring of the harness!
Pick up the harness that can be easily cleaned. The best options are models that can be washed in the washing machine.
Cleaning the harness is just as important as cleaning the dildo to avoid any transmission of bacteria and germs.
Go for the easier option, which means throwing the gear in the washer after pegging!
You can choose between different types of harnesses:
- Jockstrap style with two or three strips
- Thong or G-string style that looks like thong underwear
- A corset style that wraps around the body like a corset
- Underwear models that you wear as briefs or panties
When choosing a brand-new harness, keep in mind that it should be comfortable, easy to use, and the right fit for you.
Here's our selection of quality and comfortable harnesses.
Choosing a vibrator for pegging
People who love vibrators can get the best from both worlds and buy a vibrating strap-on dildo. This buzzing toy will bring more pleasure and extra vibrating and stimulation to pegging!
Buying the right vibrator for pegging is the same as choosing the right dildo. Decide for non-porous materials, start with smaller models, and ask your partner for their favorite type.
There are many styles of vibrators to choose from: rabbit, curved, textured, smooth, strapless, double-ended, hollow - take the one you already love and introduce it to the world of anal play.
We don't hold many of the vibrators suitable for pegging except the few:
Pegging aftercare?
Pegging is an intimate act that needs to be balanced with aftercare, just like other new sexual experiences.
If you are a beginner, you don’t know how you and your partner will react after pegging. You may need emotional support, some space, or something else.
Clear your schedules after pegging, so you don’t feel obligated and pressured to go out or do some work.
Check on your partner and talk about your experience - you both should express whether you were satisfied or not. Create an open and trustworthy environment where you share your feelings and opinions about pegging, so you know what worked and what didn’t.
Connect with your partner and cuddle on the couch, pamper yourself with a hot bath or shower, or enjoy some soul food. Showing love and affection after pegging is just as important as doing it or planning it.