The first time I held a stainless sex toy in my hand, I was struck by its mass and texture. Weighty and smooth, the toy had a presence, and I suspected the shiny device would be a sound investment and a welcome addition to my bedside drawer.
My stainless steel sex toys and I have come far, and today I'll show you how to use a stainless steel sex toy and have a great time with them.
Stainless steel toys at first glimpse
At first glimpse, you might feel a bit intimidated, after all, stainless steel has a reputation for being a heavyweight, unyielding metal β but donβt let that put you off.
Stainless steel sex toys are shiny and sleek, with a sophisticated edge that sets them apart from wobbly, rubbery dildos and garish vibrators.
They are also made to last, which gets a huge tick in the box from me.
The weight of stainless steel sex toys naturally adds intensity to play, making it easy to stimulate the G-spot, clit, and anus with precision.
Metal dildos and metal butt plugs, especially from leading brands like nJoy and Le Wand, are known for their sleek designs and ability to enhance sensation through weight and smoothness, providing a luxurious and stimulating experience.
Getting started
Like all sex toys, I would suggest getting to know your new device before you use it to arouse yourself, or anyone else.
Itβs worth reading the instructions (I know that can be boring) but itβll help you get to grips with your toy and understand how best to use it.
Iβm a fan of quality sex toys and stainless steel sex toys ooze quality. The high-grade metal is a bonus for me, as I suffer from sensitive skin. I donβt have to worry about phthalates or other potential issues. If Iβm using a sex toy near my pussy or anus, I always ''arm'' myself with water-based sex lubricants to use too.
Thankfully, when youβre using a stainless steel sex toy, you can use all sorts of lube including silicone sex lubricants and oil-based sex lubricants.
Lube reduces friction and will help give your stainless steel toy a nice amount of glide and slide.
If youβre inserting the toy, take it slowly.
Always engage in foreplay to get in the mood β if youβre feeling tense youβll find the experience uncomfortable rather than fun.
Creative ways to use a stainless steel sex toy
There are plenty of ways to play, and the type of stainless steel sex toy you choose to use can help you come up with naughty games and fun.
My partner and I like to engage in medical play from time to time and we have a funky-looking stainless steel speculum that comes in handy.
I enjoy the clinical feel of having a speculum inserted into my pussy or ass, to spread my lips or cheeks and enable my lover to take a good long look.
I feel vulnerable being forced to open up in such a way, but it also makes me feel incredibly horny.
Especially, as I know he is savoring the view of my open holes as he wanks himself off.
The Wartenberg pinwheel is another fave of ours. The stainless steel pinwheel features a handle with a spiky wheel at the top. You run the prickly wheel over naked skin to experience the sting and scratch.
Once upon a time, the devices were used by medical staff to test reflexes, but nowadays pinwheels are a staple in many a kinky kit bag.
When we are using a pinwheel, we like to incorporate bondage into our play.
My partner uses wrist and ankle restraints to restrict my movement.
When Iβm lying naked, with blindfolds for sex restricting my view, itβs difficult to remain unflustered (which is half the fun).
My pulse races as my lover walks and struts around, casually stroking my bare flesh, first with his hand and then with the pinwheel. The transition from soft to sharp often causes me to catch my breath and never fails to excite.
Stainless steel butt plugs (metal butt plugs) are fun to use too, and perfect if youβre new to anal play.
I used a stainless-steel plug on a partner a while ago. He was apprehensive about having the toy stuck up his ass but had a penchant for the full feeling he knew he would experience once the plug had been inserted.
I always opt for a plug with an easy-to-grab handle, this makes for safe play and puts both of our minds at rest.
Another go-to toy is the stainless-steel wand (metal dildos).
Often considered a classic, the wand comes in a variety of lengths and designs.
My particular favorite is a stainless steel wand that boasts bulbous balls at either end of a curved shaft - the nJoy Pure Wand.
My toy also features textured internal walls that provide added stimulation when the wand is thrust inside, perfect for a knee-trembling climax.
Temperature play using stainless steel sex toys
Stainless steel toys are also great for temperature play.
You can warm up the toy or cool it down. To heat your toy just run it under warm water, and to get it nice and chilled simply pop it in the fridge or run it under the cold tap.
Donβt forget to check the temperature of the toy with your fingers before you start getting close to your nether regions.
No one wants a burnt or iced cock, pussy or ass!
Read How to use a glass dildo, cold or warm
Cleaning stainless steel sex toys
As sex toys go, Iβd say stainless steel gadgets and gizmos are up there among the most impressive.
Aside from their versatility and durability, they are also exceptionally easy to keep clean, which is a massive plus point.
You can clean stainless steel toys by placing them in a bowl of boiling water, or by bunging them in the top rack of the dishwasher with your mugs, plates, knives, and forks.
Once they are dry pack your stainless steel toys neatly away until youβre ready to get frisky again.
Read How do I clean and maintain my sex toys?
Stainless steel sex toys are worthy of a go, if you havenβt got one already I can safely say youβre missing out.
Frequently asked questions about stainless steel sex toys
Are stainless steel sex toys safe for my body?
Yes - stainless steel is nonβporous, hypoallergenic, and built to last, which reduces risks from phthalates or porous-material bacteria and makes it a good option for sensitive skin. If youβll be sharing a toy, wipe and disinfect between uses or use a condom over the toy for extra protection.
What lube should I use with metal toys?
Almost any lube works with stainless steel: waterβbased, siliconeβbased, or oilβbased. Waterβbased is a safe default near mucous membranes; silicone and oil provide longer-lasting glide. Note: oilβbased lubes can degrade latex condoms, so choose your lube accordingly if youβre using condoms.
How do I get started - insertion and anal play tips?
Handle the toy first to get used to its weight and read the manufacturerβs instructions. Always use plenty of lube and go slow: breathe, build arousal or relaxation with foreplay, and use steady, controlled pressure rather than frantic thrusting. For anal play, only use toys with a flared base or an easyβtoβgrab handle so they canβt slip fully inside.
Can I use temperature play with stainless steel? Any safety rules?
Yes - stainless steel is excellent for warm and cold sensations. Warm it under warm water or chill it in the fridge or under cold tap water before use. Always test the temperature on your wrist first to avoid burns or ice injury. Never heat toys in a microwave or expose them to extreme oven temperatures, and avoid drastic temperatures if the toy contains electronics or a motor.
How should I clean and store stainless steel toys?
Theyβre easy to sanitize: wash with soap and hot water, boil in a pot, or run on the top rack of the dishwasher if there are no electronics. Do not boil or submerge toys that contain removable batteries or motors - instead clean those by hand following the manufacturerβs guidance. Dry completely and store in a clean, dry bag or box.
Creative ways to use stainless steel - any ideas?
The metalβs weight and smooth surface open many possibilities: use a curved wand for Gβspot or prostate pressure, enjoy longβwear fullness with a plug, experiment with temperature sensations, or explore sensation play tools that are metalβbased. Always discuss consent, confirm safety features like flared bases or handles, and set clear boundaries before trying something new.