If power play turns you on it’s high time you got hold of a pair of handcuffs. Perfect for D/s play and to spice up your bedroom antics, use handcuffs to restrain your partner while you toy with and tease them.
Let’s explore how to use handcuffs during sex and BDSM, and delve into a few ideas and scenarios you can use.
Basic tips for playing with handcuffs
My partner and I have been on the kink scene for a while and as bondage aficionados we’ve engaged in some pretty heavy scenes. The best advice we can give is to approach all BDSM play with caution, awareness, and safety at the forefront of all you do.
Communication is critical and you need to negotiate your scene beforehand, gaining consent from all parties. Discuss expectations, outline boundaries, and identify a safe word / safe signal.
Do all of this and you’re headed towards a successful, fun and memorable scene.
If you don’t have a pair already, you’ll need good-quality handcuffs. The cuffs should be sturdy, and durable and have a safety release mechanism for quick removal.
If you’re a nervous newbie you can try handcuffs made from a soft material to begin with – so you can get used to the feeling of the restraints locked to your wrists.
Fluffy handcuffs are cute and playful, and silicone handcuffs are nice and stretchy.
Both are relatively easy to wear and not too uncomfortable. Once you have a bit of experience under your belt you can progress to metal and leather handcuffs.
How to use bondage handcuffs
It’s a good idea to practice handling and using the bondage handcuffs to get a feel for them, and try them on for size before engaging in play.
Don’t get too ambitious, keep things simple to start with, you can progress to more advanced scenarios once you’ve found your feet.
Don’t just dive headfirst, set the mood to make sure you’re both get the most from play. Get it on in a private, comfortable space and warm up with foreplay such as kissing and caressing to get the party started.
We sometimes incorporate using handcuffs into foreplay, and I love the feeling of being restrained while my lover teases me and gets me all worked up.
Alternatively, he leaves the cuffs hanging on the bedpost, while we make out. The anticipation of what’s to come gets my juices flowing and my pulse racing.
Positions you can try with handcuffs
Experimentation is fun, so try using the handcuffs in various ways. You can handcuff your partner to a piece of furniture such as a chair or bed, and torment them.
The cuffs can also be used to secure the wrists together, or if you’re feeling particularly sadistic, cuff their wrist to their ankle!
Handcuffs make sex more interesting and can be used to enhance sexual positions. Missionary-style sex is a good one, as it’s easy to access the wrists and cuff your lover.
Handcuffing the wrists in front will enable your partner to touch themselves while you fuck them, but if you want total control simply cuff their wrists above their head or to the bed frame.
My personal fave is doggy style sex while cuffed. My partner orders me down on all fours and then cuffs my wrists behind my back.
I balance on my knees as he lowers my face to the bed, and I’m left feeling very vulnerable with my ass pointing skyward and my pussy exposed.
He fucks me mercilessly until I’m squealing in submission and begging to cum.
As BDSM fans we also use handcuffs when engaging in spanking or other naughty acts. I enjoy being bent over a spanking bench, metal cuffs clasped to my wrists, and attached to the bench.
My knickers are roughly pulled down and as the smacks begin to rain down my pale cheeks turn red as I pull inanely against my restraints.
Ideas and scenarios you can try with handcuffs
When it comes to roleplay, handcuffs can be used to enhance a wide range of scenes.
I like turning my partner into a voyeur by making him watch me put on a sexy show. I direct him to a chair and cuff his hands behind his back. I then perform a sexy striptease, pulling off clothes to reveal black lacy undies teamed with stockings and suspenders.
The bulge in his pants grows as I straddle his lap, unhooking my bra and rubbing my tits against his face. I then grind against his stiffy, my pussy getting wetter as I feel the hard-on pushing against my silky panties.
If he’s a good boy I drop to my knees pull his cock free and suck him until he’s ready to explode. With his hands firmly secured I can torment him by pausing and asking him if he wants more, which usually sends him into overdrive.
Role-play is great fun too.
You can take turns playing cops and robbers or guard and prisoner. The cop or guard takes control, capturing the robber or prisoner and snapping handcuffs onto their wrists.
Make the scene more realistic by wearing costumes and adopting personas. You don’t need to go as far as writing a script but having a plan is a good idea to ensure things run smoothly.
Once the prisoner is secured you can bark orders and frisk them to ensure they aren’t hiding anything naughty. A strip search may be necessary too (although if they’re handcuffed, you’re going to have to do the stripping for them).
Add to the scene by blindfolding your prisoner or forcing them into a cage, if they behave, they might even get a piece of stale bread, a glass of water, and a bucket to piss in.
With so many interesting scenarios and creative ways to play handcuffs should be an essential part of your kit. Restrain your lover and make them giddy with desire as you torment, tease, suck, and fuck them.
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