A glass bottle, an aubergine, a live eel, a mobile phone, and a Buzz Lightyear figurine are just a handful of the weird and wonderful items people have rammed up their backsides.
Unless you fancy rounding off your bum fun with a trip to the Emergency Room, I’d steer clear of inserting foreign objects and stick to butt plugs.
Butt plugs are typically cone-shaped and designed to fit snugly in your anus.
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The first time I tried one I panicked it might get stuck up my bum, but thankfully butt plugs have flared bases that prevent them from disappearing.
Once inserted, they stay in place, providing a gratifying full feeling and titillating your nerve endings.
Intro to using butt plugs
Butt plugs can provide sexual stimulation and can also be used for anal training (think butt plug sets with plugs in different sizes).
If you’re looking to prep your ass for backdoor sex you can insert the plug to stretch your hole.
I suggest starting with a small butt plug, a slim version and working towards girthier, large butt plugs as you become more accustomed to the sensation of bum fun.
Before you pop your anal cherry make sure your toy is clean, give your plug a wash with warm soapy water (or specialist sex toy cleaner), and make sure it’s dry too.
If you’re a butt plug newbie you might be a bit worried about insertion, but if you prep your bum-hole correctly there’s nothing to worry about.
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You might want to pop to the loo before you get going, once that’s done find a private, quiet place where you can get comfy and won’t be disturbed.
Now it’s time to lube up, you can get the party started by lubing up a finger and sliding that into your hole.
Smear the plug with lube and when you’re ready find a comfy position and gently begin to work the toy into place.
Remember to take your time, there’s no rush to plug in and play.
How to use butt plugs alone
Butt plugs are versatile toys – they are great for solo fun and can also be used for fun play with your lover.
If you’re playing alone a butt plug can help you to get juicy and hit a big “O” or two.
I regularly insert a plug and then use a vibrator to rub my pussy until it’s dripping, the extra sensation of the plug provides a welcome boost to masturbation.
I also like moving the vibrator around so it touches the base.
The vibrations travel and I get to enjoy the pulsations as they ripple through the numerous nerve endings in my ass.
Just touching your naked body can be more fun when you have a plug inserted.
Dim the lights, play some of your fave tunes, and give yourself a massage using aromatic oils.
The sensation of fingers roaming over your bare thighs and breasts, combined with the fullness of the plug, should be enough to get your juices flowing.
Finger yourself or grab a sex toy and give your pussy a treat for even more excitement.
How to use butt plugs with a partner
I also enjoy using a butt plug while getting it on with a partner.
Plugs can add oomph to regular sex, so next time you’re down for missionary position play pop a butt plug in first to provide extra thrills.
I like using a butt plug during oral often and encouraged my partner to insert a plug into my butt while licking my pussy.
Of course, returning the favor can be fun too and I find sucking cock to be more stimulating if there’s a plug rammed in my ass.
My lover and I have played some interesting games utilizing a butt plug over the years.
We’re into BDSM and I like it when my partner roughly ties me up and makes me squirm by teasing me with a plug.
He lubes my hole with his finger and toys with me by inserting the tip, pulling out, and then plunging the plug deep into my ass.
We enjoy flogging too, and being flogged with a plug in can be very pleasurable, especially when the tails of the flogger stroke the exposed base of the plug.
Temperature play works well with metal butt plugs or a glass butt plugs.
Hot wax poured and smeared on naked skin can provide a pleasurable thrill. You’ll need to use body-safe candles, not the standard smelly candles used to add an atmospheric glow to your lounge, as the wax will be too hot.
Instead, opt for body-safe soy or paraffin candles designed for play, as they melt at a lower temperature.
Also, not my cup of tea exactly, but tail butt plugs can be a great teaser if you like engaging in pet play or erotic roleplay.
Other ways to use butt plugs
There are butt plug games you can play that work well regardless of whether you’re solo or engaging in partner play.
Challenges include walking around your local area, attending a meeting, or grocery shopping while wearing your plug.
For this type of risque fan, I recommed playing with remote-controlled butt plugs (or app-controlled).
You’ll feel very naughty knowing you have a plug stuffed up your bum, but no one else will know why you’re walking around with a smile on your face!
You can stroll around on your own or hand in hand with your partner (this is especially stimulating if he or she whispers rude things in your ear as you amble along).
Going out for dinner or for a movie while plugged can be interesting too. For that occasion, I always use one of my elegant jeweled butt plugs which definitely adds to the ambiance at the end of the evening, when I pull my panties down.
Sitting on your plug can be uncomfortable, so you may have to squirm a little (which adds a deliciously devilish element of fun).
If you’re solo relish the thought that you’re plugged while out socialising with oblivious friends.
If you’re with your lover you can wear your plug while being taunted, teased, and sent on errands.
Giving your partner the controls of your butt plugs can be extremely fun!!
Once you’ve got used to being plugged for a short time you can move on to longer episodes.
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This is not for the faint-hearted, so don’t jump from thirty minutes to a full day.
Wearing a plug for a long period will arouse and delight, but don’t go for a beast of a plug.
Use lube and steer clear of excessive physical activity. If you start to feel sore or too uncomfortable remove the plug and give your anus a welcome break.
Once you’ve had enough bum fun (and hopefully an orgasm too), it’s time to pull the plug.
Relax and take hold of the flared base, gently tugging as you do. You might find this tricky, as your sphincter will clasp it, holding the butt plug in place.
However, a few tugs should do the trick and you’ll find the plug will work its way loose so you can gently remove it.
About the author
Sex-positive, and a fan of exploring the bright and bold world of kink, Astolaine has a passion for creating adult content and has been working as a freelance writer for the past five years. When she's not at her laptop you'll find her taking a leisurely bubble bath, enjoying a Sauvignon, and devouring a pacy thriller or erotic novel.