Here at The Sex Shed, we love to share our insight on sexy topics.

Do you know what else we love? Dildos.

You're missing out if you don’t have one or two in your toy box, and today I’m going to tell you how to ride a dildo like a seasoned rider.

Intro to riding dildos

I have a couple of dildos tucked safely in the drawer next to my bed. It’s my go-to when I want to masturbate and I regularly use my fave toy to titillate my pussy and tickle my ass.

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I like to use dildos, I like to write about dildos, and if you browse The Sex Shed, you’ll find a few more gems e.g. How to use a glass dildo, cold and warm, and a handy guide to suction cup dildo positions.

Dildos have certainly come a long way since the first ones were crafted thousands of years ago.

Nowadays, you’ll find dildos in various sizes, shapes, and colors. There’s everything from realistic dildos to fantasy dildos.

Use your dildo manually and thrust it in and out of yourself, or attach it to a strap-on harness and enjoy fucking a friend.

Alternatively, you can add a suction cup to the base, fix your toy to a stable surface, and go for a ride.

There are vibrating dildos too, which boast an array of speeds and functions and often come with a remote control.

At the luxury end of the market, you have your full-on sex machines - dildos attached to fucking devices that are designed to relentlessly shag you until you cum.

You’ll be paying more for a gadget like this, but if you don’t mind splashing out, you’ll be in for one hell of a ride!

Personally, I love how versatile dildos are.

They can be used by all, regardless of age, gender, or sexual orientation. I use mine regularly to masturbate and occasionally use my dildo with my lover to shake things up in the bedroom.

Whether you’re a fan of anal or vaginal penetration or both, dildos are a game changer.

Best ways to ride a dildo

How to ride a dildo vaginally

There’s more than one way to ride a dildo when you’re engaging in vaginal play.

I like to use my dildo manually and enjoy a chilled evening lounging on the couch or my bed, with my sex toy for company.

I start gently by teasing my pussy with the dildo, and when I’m worked up, I progress to thrusting the toy in and out until I’m ready to burst.

I am lucky enough to own a fucking machine too and when I’m in the mood for a more intense experience I like to climb aboard for a mechanical fuck that won’t stop until I’ve reached orgasm city.

My partner and I like to play with dildos too, and it’s refreshing to let someone else take the helm and shag me with a toy.

Harnesses come in handy for pussy pleasure too.

You can use a harness to secure the dildo against a pillow, and then straddle the pillow (one leg on either side). If you climb aboard cowgirl style you can head off for a gallop – Yee Haw!

For things like that, check out the strap on or play pad dildo accessories or strap-on harnesses.

If you’re a vagina owner and your lover is a vagina owner you can strap the dildo into a harness and go at it with your other half. Bend them over and do them doggy style, get cozy spooning, do it against the wall – there are endless possibilities for fun.

Suction cup dildos are very useful too.

Mount your dildo on a sturdy chair, then lower yourself onto the toy.

A wall works well, as does a headboard - simply fix your dildo to the smooth surface and edge back onto it.

You can enjoy doggy-style fun as the toy thrusts in and out of your sopping pussy.

Wet and wild is a good option too. Use the suction cup to fix your dildo to the edge of your bathtub, and squat over it (the easiest way to do this is to place one leg in the tub and the other outside).

I often take my dildo into the shower – I fix it to the wall and enjoy the sensation of the warm water cascading over me as I ride.

Why not take your lover in too? Then you can enjoy a soapy massage to complement dildo play.

How to ride dildo anally

If you like the idea of back door action, you can use the dildo for that too.

Again, it boils down to finding the right position for fun.

My friend uses his toy for anal regularly and suggests the best way to start (especially if you’re new to bum fun) is to lie on your side with your top knee bent.

Lying like this should open up your back passage a bit, making entry easier.

Hold the dildo in one hand and gently push it inside your ass, using your hand to control the motion.

You can enjoy the sensations as you vary the speed and depth of thrusts.

You can use the suction cup to facilitate anal play too.

Fix the dildo to a smooth wall and reverse onto it.

A narrow corridor works well here. Mount your dildo on the wall and edge back, using the wall opposite as a place to rest your hands. Steady yourself and push back.

If you’re looking for a comfier option a sofa is a good idea.

Place your dildo on your couch and slowly mount it, rocking yourself backward and forward as you feel the toy sliding into your ass.

Put the TV on and treat yourself to some porn at the same time!

You can even involve role play.

Attach your dildo to a pillow or cushion (you can make a DIY harness to do this) and then grab an old pair of jeans.

Stuff the cushion or pillow into the crotch and maneuver the dildo through the front zipper.

Ease yourself back onto the cock and enjoy a thorough ass pounding as you push back and forth.

Top dildo riding tips for a robust ride

Riding a dildo can prove tiring, so it’s a good idea to try and use different muscle groups.

Sometimes I attach my dildo to a step stool (a relatively tall one) and straddle the stool. I have to squat using my thighs, but I also make sure there’s a surface (such as a table) in front of me so I can rest my arms.

I can then vary the speed and depth using my thigh muscles and then my arms to rise and fall on and off the dildo.

Riding this way saves my muscles from becoming too tired and as a bonus I’m working out too, building my muscle tone and stamina – who needs the gym?

As with all sex toys, don’t go diving in and using the thickest, large dildo available (especially if you’re inexperienced).

Start with a small dildo and build up, and find a private space where you can play in comfort and without being disturbed.

Foreplay is always a winner too, you need to get revved up before you ram a dildo in a hole, use your fingers first if need be.

Take your time and use plenty of water-based lube to help your toy slide into place.

You might have to practice with positioning too, it’s not always easy to find the right spot straight away.

Just wiggle about and re-position yourself until it feels right (trust me you’ll know when it does).

So, there you go. You know how to ride a dildo - for anal action and pussy play, so grab some lube, find the right place, and get ready to cum.

Frequently asked questions about using dildos

Is it common for people with vaginas to use a dildo?

Yes - totally common. Many people use dildos to explore pleasure, discover what kinds of stimulation they like, and to help reach orgasm. Dildos are normal, versatile, and come in shapes and sizes for beginners through seasoned riders. If you’re sharing toys, use a condom or clean thoroughly between users.

How can I satisfy myself without a toy?

You don’t need gadgets to enjoy yourself. Try fingers with lots of water‑based lube, focused breathing and pelvic‑floor squeezes (Kegels) to build sensation, external clitoral stimulation via massage or suction devices, hands‑free techniques like tensing/releasing pelvic muscles or positioning, and explore erotica or porn that turns you on. Technique, relaxation, and arousal matter most.

What’s the easiest way to ride a suction‑cup dildo hands‑free?

Pick a smooth, flat surface (tile shower wall, headboard, sturdy chair or bathtub edge). Press firmly to create a strong seal and test the hold with gentle pressure before mounting, then edge back onto it. Positions that work well include standing with one foot up, squatting over the tub, or straddling a chair or pillow. Use plenty of water‑based lube and keep a towel nearby. If suction fails, try a harness, mount on a pillow, or use a strap‑on.

How do I ride a dildo anally without pain?

Go slow and sensible: choose an anal‑safe toy with a narrow tip and a flared base, start with a small toy or a finger, and use lots of water‑based anal lube. Relax, breathe, and warm up with foreplay or external stimulation. Positions like side‑lying with the top knee bent can help open things up, or try slowly reversing onto a wall‑mounted toy. Stop if you feel sharp pain - gradual training with an anal trainer set or a butt‑plug progression works better than forcing size.

What size and material should I start with?

Beginners should start with a small‑to‑medium diameter and a tapered tip for easier entry. Materials to consider: silicone (soft, body‑safe; use water‑based lube), glass or metal (smooth, easy to clean, good for temperature play), and vibrating or thrusting options if you want extra stimulation. Avoid jumping to the biggest toy; build up as you get comfortable. A small silicone or glass dildo is a safe starter if you’re unsure.

I get tired riding - any stamina hacks to keep the fun going?

Yes. Straddle a step stool or chair so your thighs do the work and rest your arms on a table for balance, alternate between thrusting with your thighs and lifting with your arms, use a harness, strap‑on, or an automatic thrusting device for longer hands‑free sessions, take short breaks and switch positions, and use foreplay to maintain arousal without burning out. Think of it like a mini workout - change rhythm and let different muscles rest.