You asked:

I love using my strap-on with my partner, but I'm lacking any stimulation for my own clit. Is there a vibrator I can get that I can wear at the same time as the strap? It would need to be totally hands-free. I've been considering the Dame Eva II as an option?

Grace:

You'll definitely want something compact for strap-on play so it doesn’t get uncomfortable to put pressure on. The flat We-Vibe Moxie+ comes to mind-it's app- and remote-controllable, so you can adjust the settings or turn it off without needing to actually access it. Plus, it uses magnets to attach to your underwear (or the inside of the harness) for hands-free wear.

I'd also recommend checking out the Banana Pants Honeybunch. It’s designed specifically for clitoral stimulation during strap-on play, and all you need is a bullet vibrator to turn it into a full clit vibe. For a cheap but suitable option, there is the Femme Funn FFIX.

As for the Dame Eva II, I wouldn’t recommend it for this type of play. It’s tricky to position for hands-free play even during solo use, and its bulky design is pretty much the opposite of what you’d want here.

Frequently asked questions about clit vibrators for strap-on play

What kind of clit vibrator should I buy for strap-on play?

Short answer: something flat, compact, and hands‑free. Look for wearables or small bullets that won’t get crushed under a harness or pushed awkwardly into your body. Good options are magnetic flat panty vibes (e.g., We‑Vibe Moxie+) or pairing a small bullet with a panty‑style harness like Banana Pants’ Honeybunch.

Can I use the Dame Eva II for hands‑free harness play?

Short answer: probably not. The Eva II is relatively bulky and can be tricky to keep positioned hands‑free under a harness, so it’s better suited to solo use. For harness play choose a low‑profile wearable or a bullet‑in‑pouch setup instead.

How do I actually attach a clit vibe to a harness so it stays put?

Use a harness with a built‑in pouch or a panty‑style stimulator (e.g., Banana Pants), or snap a magnetic wearable onto underwear/harness (We‑Vibe Moxie+ style). Bullets can be tucked between the harness strap and the dildo base or popped into a small pocket. Always do a dress rehearsal to check angle and tightness before play.

Bullet vs. wearable vs. strapless - which is best for me?

Bullets are inexpensive, powerful, and fit many harness pouches but can shift. Wearables (flat or C‑shaped) are designed to stay put and be hands‑free. Strapless strap‑ons include built‑in vibration for both partners so you don’t need a separate toy. Choose based on comfort, movement level, and whether you want to stimulate one or both partners.

Any tips for comfort, control, and avoiding awkward moments?

Test positioning while standing and walking, use water‑based lube to reduce slipping, and prefer β€œrumbly” motors for sustained sensation rather than buzzy motors that can feel numbing. Pick an app or remote control if you want a partner to drive the vibe, and check noise levels if discretion matters.

Cleaning, safety, and compatibility - what should I know before I buy?

Clean per the toy’s instructions (soap and water or toy cleaner for non‑porous materials). Avoid silicone lube on silicone toys. Make sure the toy fits the harness pocket and won’t be pinched or crushed, which can damage it. Check battery/charging and waterproof ratings if you’ll use lubricants or need easy cleaning. When in doubt, consider simple replaceable bullets or a wearable rated for harness use.