You asked:

I'm planning to buy my first butt plug. Which material should I choose? Metal, glass... or does it need to be soft silicone? Is there anything else I need to be considering?

Grace:

For materials, I always suggest either silicone or metal for butt plugs. Since silicone is the more affordable option, it’s usually the go-to for beginners-plus, it comes in a wider variety.

I don’t think a soft silicone plug is necessary. In fact, it can sometimes be a mistake because if it’s too soft, the base might not be as effective. Instead, focus on getting something small to start with. Later, you can add more plugs that gradually increase in size. And in regards to the base, a T-bar is definitely the best choice.

There are plenty of great beginner-friendly silicone plugs, but since you’ll likely need to buy multiple anyway, I always recommend starting with the b-Vibe Anal Training Kit. It includes three different-sized plugs, along with useful accessories and educational materials. It’s also great value and makes the whole process of starting out much easier.

Frequently asked questions about butt plugs

What’s the best material for my first butt plug?

Go with 100% medical-grade (body-safe) silicone - it’s non-porous, hypoallergenic, comfortable for insertion, easy to clean, and budget-friendly. If you prefer a firmer feel, borosilicate glass or 316L stainless steel are also excellent non-porous options (they’re heavier, great for temperature play, and sterilize easily).

Do I need a β€œsoft” silicone plug or a firm one?

Not necessarily - super-squishy plugs can flop and make the base less effective. For beginners, choose a small, tapered plug with a firm-ish neck and a solid flared base (T-bar style is great). Comfort matters, but stability and an obvious flared base are safety priorities.

Can I start with glass or metal instead of silicone?

Yes - many beginners do. Glass and metal give a crisp, smooth sensation and are hygienic and robust. Start very small, go slow (they don’t compress like silicone), and be mindful of the weight and temperature differences.

Which materials should I avoid?

Skip porous, low-quality materials (cheap rubber/jelly, vinyl, low-grade TPE/TPR). They trap bacteria, can smell, and can’t be fully sterilized. Also avoid any anal toy without a secure flared base.

Besides material, what else should I consider before buying?

Size (start small), shape (tapered tip + narrow neck), base (flared/T-bar), and lubricant compatibility. Use a water-based lube with silicone toys (silicone lube can degrade silicone); glass/metal work with either water or silicone lube. Consider an anal training set if you want a ready progression of sizes.

How do I clean and care for my first plug?

For non-porous plugs: wash with warm soapy water or toy cleaner, rinse well. Glass and stainless steel can be boiled or run through the dishwasher (top rack) if the manufacturer allows. Pure medical-grade silicone can usually be boiled, but check brand notes. Never share an unclean plug; use a condom if sharing or store each toy in its own pouch.