You asked:
Hey, I’m new to toys and not sure where to begin. Should I get a butt plug or a dildo first?
Grace:
The biggest difference between plugs and dildos (apart from their obvious size difference), is how they are played with. Dildos are good for a masturbation session as they need to be held in place or thrusted, whilst plugs can be worn for extended periods. This tends to give plugs more versatility, and this, coupled with the fact that plugs are typically smaller and more catered to beginners, makes them my pick here. Plus, wearing them will help "train" your anus, which will help you take dildos too.
I'd suggest starting with b-Vibe’s Anal Training Kit. It’s perfect for beginners because it comes with three different plugs, plus educational resources to guide you, extra equipment you may not realise you need, and the quality is excellent for the price. Make sure to also grab a bottle of Sliquid Sassy while you're at it, since lube is the one thing this kit doesn't come with.
And when you are ready to try out a dildo, I'd highly recommend the Dillio Curious Five. It's slim, smooth and tapered, making it perfect for anal beginners, plus the suction cup makes it great for hands-free play.
Frequently asked questions about anal play and butt plugs
Should I start with a butt plug or an anal dildo?
Start with a butt plug. Plugs are typically smaller, designed to stay in place, and great for “training” the anus - letting you get comfortable with penetration before you move on to a dildo, which is usually thicker and used for thrusting.
How does a butt plug “train” you, and how long before I try a dildo?
Training means gradually getting your muscles used to stretch and sensation. Start with a small plug for short sessions (10–30 minutes), increase wearing time and/or size over days or weeks, and only try a slim, tapered dildo when insertion feels comfortable and painless.
What size and shape should a beginner choose?
Look for a small, tapered tip and narrow midline (about 1–1.2 inches wide for many beginners), a flared base (always - for safety), and a smooth surface. Sets or training kits with multiple sizes are ideal because you can progress slowly.
Do I need special lube and other gear?
Yes - lots of lube. Use a quality anal-friendly lubricant (thicker water-based or silicone-based depending on toy material). The article recommends Sliquid Sassy. Also get a toy cleaner, use toys with a flared base for anal play, and consider condoms on toys if sharing or switching materials.
Can I wear a plug during normal activities? How long is safe to wear a plug?
Many people wear small plugs for short periods (walking around, light activities). Keep sessions gradual - start short, pay attention to comfort, and never sleep in a plug unless it’s specifically designed and you’re experienced. Remove it if you feel pain, numbness, or significant discomfort.
Any beginner product picks from the article?
Yes - the b-Vibe Anal Training Kit (three sizes + resources) is a great starter kit for gradual training, and Sliquid Sassy is the lube pick. When you’re ready for a dildo, the Dillio Curious Five is recommended: slim, tapered, and beginner-friendly with a suction base for hands-free play.