The mainstream media advertises the importance of sex and sexual health. The use of sex toys and other adult tools is being promoted more than ever in the past. We are flooded with surveys and statistics that show how essential a fulfilling sex life is for each individual.
A great sex life improves your sexual health and has countless benefits that lead to a better and more fulfilling life. Sex plays a crucial role in love relationships and is often an indicator of how hot or cold things are between couples.
Lovers who have a great sex life often have a higher level of intimacy, a stronger emotional connection, and are happier. But maintaining a spark and improving the quality of sex life in long-term relationships and marriages can involve drastic changes and experimentation with kinky sex.
You may hear of this naughty term that seems to be used everywhere in our curious and modern times. Or you have already tried this in the desire to discover new sexual pleasures and satisfy your needs.
Anyone can benefit from kinky sex and experiment with some "taboo" sexual practices to experience the mind-blowing sex they had always dreamed of!
What is kinky sex?
And since the term kinky sex appears in every sex debate right now, you may want to know what it means and what we count as naughty sex.
In the past, the term kink has been used to describe unconventional sexual practices such as fetishism and sadism, and abnormal sexual fantasies, including pedophilia. The term kink originates from the concept that these unusual sexual practices bend ("kinks") from the norm.
Kink now has a positive reputation and is generally used to describe naughty practices where all participants consent to sexual activity and enjoy sex outside of social norms.
The main categories that are often considered kinky are:
BDSM
Many people, when they hear about kinky sex, first think of BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism). There are countless BDSM practices, including soft activities like spanking and intense sessions, including pet or slave play.
Group sex
Threesomes, foursomes, swinger parties, and orgies involving more than two participants are kinky activities that are no longer such a taboo in the 21st century. Many people regularly experiment with group sex or fantasies about it.
Role-playing
Creating fantasy sex scenarios and identities is the most popular and used kinky practice. Erotic role-playing is usually combined with different costumes, sex toys, or accessories.
Fetishes
The most known fetish in the world is the foot fetish, but many different types involve the sexual worship of several body parts or objects. Other well-known fetishes include leather, latex, high heels, stuffed animals, diapers, piercings, hair, armpits, and more.
Each individual has their own opinion about kinky sex based on their beliefs and sexual desires. Everyone has sex differently - for some, anal sex is considered a kink, and for others, it is part of their sexual routine.
Some may see spanking as a special treat, while many lovers enjoy it regularly. When it comes to kinky sex, there are no right or wrong, as long as everything is consensual and safe.
Establish the boundaries and safewords
Consent is an essential ingredient for any kinky experience and sexual experimentation. Even in a long-term relationship, you should ask for consent and never assume that your partner will agree to things because you know them. Both should give their permission for each sexual activity and shouldn't feel forced into anything.
Have an open conversation about your boundaries and practices or body parts that you don't want to include in the session. Both partners should express their do's and don'ts without any judgment.
Kinky play often includes pushing the lover’s boundaries, but this needs to be done safely and pleasantly for both. A great way to maintain safety during naughty sex is to choose safe words. One or more simple words meaning "stop" or "slow down" will give you a sense of trust and security.
If you feel uncomfortable or scared during sex, use safe words and express your feelings to your partner. You can always slow down, take a break, or end the act if you want!
Remember to check on your sweetheart during the session and ask them how they are. When you’re done, take the time to reconnect and enjoy the aftercare with affection and cuddling. Talk about the experience and express what you liked or didn’t like.
Kinky sex ideas to try
Teasing before oral
Spoil your partner with kisses, light touches, and licking all over their body without focusing on their intimate areas. Take the time to excite them and please them orally at the end.
Dirty play
Whisper dirty things in your partner's ear during sex. Pull them by the hair or grab them by the neck, add some spanking and tell them how good they feel and how horny you are.
Tantric sex
If you want to connect with a partner and create an intimate sexual experience, try tantric sex where the goal is not orgasm. It is about enjoying the moment and a slow sexual journey that focuses on breathing, touching, and looking into the eyes. Click here to learn more about tantric sex.
O- ring gag
Buy an open-mouth ring and put it on your partner. They can kneel or lie on the bed when you thrust in their open mouth. For extra stimulation, restrain their hands behind their back, and they will be all yours. Click here to learn how to use ball gags.
Bring food to the bedroom
Chocolate, lollipops, fruit, and whipped cream are great erotic food for the bedroom. You can eat slowly and make a sexy eating show for your partner. You can put the food on yourself and ask your partner to lick and eat everything. Bring blindfolds and restraints for more sensual food fun.
Mutual masturbation
Sit facing each other and start with mutual masturbation. Penetration or touching is not allowed, but you can stimulate your partner with dirty talking.
Watch your partner masturbate
Give your partner some sex toys and tell them to take off their clothes. They can sit on the couch or couch while you relax opposite them with a good view of what is going on. Order them to start playing with themselves, but you control how they do it.
Threesome imitation
If you and your partner fantasize about threesome sex, you can simulate it with the help of a sex machine, masturbator, butt plug, suction cup dildo or with a toy from 3some series. Your partner can enjoy the sex toy alone in a dark room while you watch them and later join the party.
Sex dungeons
You can rent the sex dungeon with your partner and try the BDSM gear and furniture for a few hours. An ideal solution for lovers interested in the world of BDSM.
Frozen toy
Surprise your partner with a frozen present! Put your glass dildo or metal dildo in the freezer for a couple of minutes and then shock their senses with cold penetration. Be careful and always test the dildo temperature on your skin before you try it on your partner.
Rimming
For a change, orally pleasure your partner's asshole and focus only on that area. Kiss, lick, suck it, and use your fingers or tongue to stimulate their booty. Click here to learn more about rimming.
Shower sex
Invite your partner in the shower and enjoy wet fun together. Start by soaping and massaging each other all over your body, leaving the intimate parts for later.
Snack time
Tell your partner it is time for lunch. Sit on a chair with spread legs and feed your partner with your homemade goods. They can also lie on the bed, and you can ride their face.
CNC scene
Try a consensual non-consent play where partners often enjoy fantasy rape scenes, including kidnapping or home burglary. The most important thing is the consent of both partners before the event, who must discuss every detail of the scenario. Click here for more CNC play ideas and here for more information on CNC scenes.
Controlled sex toys
Sex toys that you can control with your phone are an invention you need in your relationship. Make your partner wear it so you can tease them around the house, on a date, or at a party. Click here to see more remote-controlled sex toys.
Porn marathon
Get in your bed without clothes and have a porn marathon with your partner. Watch erotic movies together and compete who will last longer before you go all-in.
Feet slave
Tell your partner that you are their feet master and let them worship your feet. You can wear stockings and high heels, and they can spoil you with foot massage, foot licking, and toe sucking.
Fingering
Sit behind your partner and wrap your legs around them. Use their mouths and wet your fingers before you start teasing them in their private areas. Play with different movements, speeds, and rhythms. Click herefor more fingering techniques.
Erotic massage
Take the lube and start teasing and massaging your partner. Avoid their genitals and stimulate their nipples, neck, and legs - you can also use a magic wand or vibrator. Then you can finally move to their intimate area and give them a happy ending.
Sex slave
Your partner can become your sex slave for the night. Discuss what is acceptable, choose safe words, and start training them with the help of sex toys if you want. You can switch your roles the next day.
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Kinky sex tips
Adding some kinkiness to your bedroom can add a spicy spark that you and your partner have been missing lately.
Many couples crave a change in their monotonous sex life and sexual routine that eventually occurs in any long-term relationship. If you are thinking of a kinky experience, help yourself with the following tips:
Talk about your fantasies
There are many ways to include naughty sex into your life, so why not experience some of your deepest fantasies? Tell your partner what you dream about, and enjoy spanking, role-playing, anal play, or the dirty talking you’ve always wanted.
Forget about gender roles
Rimming, pegging, and FemDom are sexual practices that are still considered taboo due to the exchange of gender roles and power. Mainly, because society's belief that straight people with penises shouldn't enjoy anal play and vagina owners should be submissive in a relationship. Break these norms, bring kinky no-gender sex scenes into your sex life, and do what feels good.
Open communication
We assume that your partner doesn't know how to read your mind, so you should communicate with them before, during, and after the kinky session. Before the play, express your boundaries and expectations, tell them how you feel during the scene, and talk about the experience when you’re done. With open communication and mutual trust, you can avoid confusion and experience the most satisfying kinky sex.
Masturbate together
Masturbation is often overlooked or forgotten in relationships or seen as a solo activity. Bring masturbation into your life, and you will see what you are missing. Partners can watch and stimulate each other while playing with themselves- hot, what else can we say!
Take it slowly
There are many BDSM scenes, which you may want to try, but they can seem too intense as chastity devices or rape fantasy. Remember that you can always start slowly and gently without time pressure. Select safewords and use them or take a break if necessary. Some kinky plays will require more time, and you need to take it!
Final words
Each couple can benefit from adding kink into their life. It can make sex more exciting, bring you mind-blowing orgasms and open the door to a new and spicy world.
You can become obsessed with kinky sex because there are so many naughty scenarios that you will want to try with your partner. Break the "rules" with kink and explore the “taboo” practices safely and consensualy.