There’s more than one way to smack a butt, so allow me to take you on a naughty tour of impact play.
I’ll give you the lowdown on 9 spanking position ideas and tips to help you up your spanking game.
If you want to become a spanking expert, you’ll also need to swat up on your implements. When you’ve finished this racy read, I suggest you discover how to use spanking paddles, find out how to use whips, riding crops & canes, and learn how to use floggers.
Read: How to use a spanking paddle? Scenarios and how to (techniques)
Spanking positions
You can redden those cheeks in many different ways, but before you engage in any slap and tickle, you’ll need to have a frank discussion with your partner.
Discuss your planned scene or expectations, set boundaries, and pinpoint safe words/safe signals.
Ready to tan some hide? Let’s explore a few positions…
Classic over the knee (OTK) position
There’s a good reason why over-the-knee, or OTK, is branded a classic spanking position.
You can play this one in a couple of ways, and one of my favourite ways to be taken is to be bent over my partner’s lap. When we play out this scene, my man sits on a chair and beckons me to him before pulling me across his lap.
I receive a few playful swats on my rear before my skirt is roughly pulled up to reveal my lacy panties. Inevitably, they come down too, and my bare buttocks quiver with anticipation of what’s to come.
The spanking picks up pace, with his palm coming down harder and firmer until my ass turns a shade of pink.
If I’ve been a very bad girl, I might get the spanking paddle, riding crop, or flogger across my behind too.
The chair method works well for us, but OTK can be done another way. The Dominant partner can sit on the bed, leaning against the headboard for support. They pull the submissive over their lap, so the sub is lying horizontally, before delivering a stinging spanking.
Standing bent over position
This one can be tricky for a submissive, especially if you’re going in hard and heavy.
I find it challenging to keep my balance as I lean forward at the waist and grasp my ankles with my hands, but I guess that’s half the fun.
My buttocks are exposed and make a great target for my Dominant as he takes a swipe at my ass. I’m often made to count the strokes as they land, too, which can prove humiliating.
If my guy is feeling particularly mean, he pauses between each swat. As I wait for the next hit, I can feel my legs shaking, and my breathing becomes heavier with anticipation.
Lying flat on the front
I would like to say this spanking position is nice if you’re feeling lazy and would like to lie down, but lying on your front isn’t relaxing when you’re getting a sound spanking.
This spanking position works well for me on a comfy bed and I like having a sex pillow beneath me to prop up my hips, and expose my ass cheeks for a beating.
Having my head pushed into a pillow can add an extra thrill. I’m a fan of sensory deprivation, and not being able to see what’s coming turns me on.
With my face squashed into the fabric I can’t squeal too much either, and as the flogger rains down on my butt, I bury my face deeper.
Hands and knees (doggy style) position
Down on my hands and knees also suits me for spanking. The doggy position is fun for sex, and getting down on all fours feels rude.
For this one, I’m commanded to strip naked in front of my Dominant and perform a sexy striptease, slowly taking my clothes off as he looks on. When I’m completely nude, I get down and get ready to take a good smack.
If I’m feeling cheeky, I’ll wiggle my ass to get my Sir’s attention, although I know this might get me in more trouble.
I’ll get a hand spanking, followed by a paddling, flogging, or cropping. Afterward, I might get a good hard fucking too, with his meaty cock thrusting hard into my pussy from behind.
Read: How to use a riding crop? Scenarios and how to (techniques)
Bent over a chair or table
Forget sitting down for dinner; your dining table and chairs can be put to better use.
Bend your submissive over the edge of a table, pushing their legs apart. You can smack the buttocks and back of their thighs with your hand or use an implement for more intense impact. Experienced players can tap between the legs too, striking the genitals.
This position is handy for the Dominant, as implements can be laid out on the table for easy access. Help yourself to your weapon of choice, and let the spanking commence.
Against a wall
Standing against a wall is an easy position to adopt, and the sub can stand facing the wall or facing forward, depending on where you want to deliver the spanking.
If your sub is facing the wall, you can make use of the buttocks and thighs, hand spanking, flogging, paddling, cropping, or caning until they beg for mercy.
Facing forward you’ll be able to spank the tits and pussy, but go easy if you’re striking those areas.
With the legs raised
Also known as the diaper position, this one involves lying back on the bed and raising the legs - babies are typically put in this position for a diaper change.
It’s not the easiest position for the sub to adopt, as it involves keeping the legs lifted up, which can put a strain on the muscles.
I really like this position as it makes me feel vulnerable and exposed. With my legs open you can see my pussy and ass in all its glory. I try not to roll left to right, but it’s difficult to remain poised when you’re being smacked over and over again.
Over a BDSM spanking bench
BDSM equipment works well for a spanking session.
Spanking benches are designed to be bent over and leant upon, and they lend themselves well to keeping the sub in position.
You can use handcuffs to secure the wrists and ankles to the bench, and you can also use bondage masks and hoods, alongside mouth gags, to subdue your sub further.
Tied to a St. Andrew’s Cross
The St Andrew’s Cross is an impressive piece of BDSM kit. I love being restrained with my arms outstretched and my legs spread wide.
The padding makes the cross easy to stand against, and the restraints keep my limbs firmly in place.
I can face the cross and take a beating to my buttocks and thighs, or lean with my back against it and face the front. In that position I’m ready to accept a tit, pussy or inner thigh spanking, all of which are exquisitely painful.
Top tips for a sound spanking
If you’re going to get involved in spanking, there are a few things you need to keep in mind.
First off, newbies should stick to hand-spanking to begin with and always warm up the area well beforehand.
This can involve massaging, squeezing, and delivering light taps to the area that’s going to be spanked. You’ll see the skin change, becoming pinker as the blood rushes to the surface.
A hand spanking is an intimate way to play, but implements can add to the fun, and you have plenty to choose from.
You can try a few household items, such as a slipper, a wooden spoon, a hairbrush, and a belt. Alternatively, invest in quality spanking implements such as high-quality floggers, spanking paddles, or riding crops.
Read: How to use a flogger? Scenarios and how to (techniques)
Some implements are best reserved for more experienced players, e.g., whips & canes. Both are harsh tools and need to be used with caution.
Don’t forget to discuss marks with your sub before the session. If your sub doesn’t want to be marked, e.g. bruised – you’ll need to go easy when you strike.
Spanking takes a little practice, so tap the implement on your own thigh to get a feel for it before using it on your partner.
Start slow when you embark on a session, building up the pressure and intensity. You can vary the pace and strength of the strikes to keep the play interesting.
Spanking can be used to enhance a D/s (Dominant/submissive relationship), for a power exchange scenario, or simply for fun. Spanking as a punishment can be highly effective and can be teamed with other punishments such as corner time.
After a spanking, you’ll need to think about aftercare.
Aftercare needs differ from person to person, and although it’s typically provided to the sub, the Dom can benefit from it, too.
You might want to cuddle after the session or enjoy a drink or snack together. Take it easy and take time to reflect and return to normality.
Spanking is a great way to inject extra fun into your relationship or bedroom antics.
Always negotiate your scene, gain consent, and play within the set boundaries. Don’t be afraid to try out different spanking positions and enjoy a spanking good time.