I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve chatted with friends about the G-spot. While some celebrate it as a full-on fun zone, others dub it as mysterious as a unicorn.
Although it can be hard to find, the G-Spot is no myth, it’s very real.
Connected to the clitoral network, the G-Spot is highly sensitive. I managed to find mine a few years back, and I’m pleased to say it was worth the effort. So, allow me to share my findings as we explore how deep is the G-Spot? How to find it and how to stimulate it.
How deep is the G-spot and where can I find it?
The G-Spot is typically located along the anterior (front) wall, around 5 to 8 centimeters inside the opening of the vagina. However, it’s not in the same spot for everyone, so you may have to engage in a little exploration and discovery.
You can engage a lover to lend you a hand, but I preferred trying solo to begin with. I used my fingers to have a feel about, and the best way to describe the G-Spot is to say it’s a relatively small and has a rough texture.
If you’re going to go on a G-spot hunt use lubrication to help you on your way. I prefer water-based lube as it is safe for internal play, easy to use, and good for sensitive skin. It is also versatile, and I can use the lube on my fingers, with condoms and silicone sex toys.
To find your G-Spot get lubed up and insert two fingers into your vagina (make sure your hand is palm side up). You need to make a hook shape with both fingers, as though you are beckoning someone towards you.
The fingers should be hooked towards the front vaginal wall, as if they are pointing to the belly button. Take your time and you should soon find the sacred spot.
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How to stimulate the G-spot
Once you have located your G-spot you can practice the art of stimulating it. You can stick with using your fingers, but keep things fresh by varying the pace and pressure. I enjoy alternating between soft and then firm taps to build sexual pressure, and arouse the G-Spot.
Whether you’re engaging in self-love or are getting it on with your partner, a decent warm up is a must.
Getting aroused before you go on a G-Spot hunt will turn you on and cause the G-spot to swell – making it easier to find.
As I mentioned previously, you can have a go at finding the G-spot solo, or you can get your lover in on the action via masturbation with fingers or a sex toy, or during intercourse.
The best sex positions for this are those offering deep stimulation of the vaginal wall. These include doggy style sex, elevated missionary and woman on top.
Sex from behind (doggy), gives both partners control over depth and angle of penetration. If the standard down on all four’s position proves tricky, try arching your back or balancing on your forearms rather than your hands. This will provide better access and should allow for deeper penetration.
Women on top is another good sex position to try as the vagina owner can regulate depth, angle and pace, moving around to ensure the penis hits the right spot.
If you fancy something a little more chilled, opt for the elevated missionary. This one involves lying on your back and raising the pelvis. You can use pillows to prop up your hips for comfort, and the angle lends itself well to G-spot access.
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Sex toys work well too, but not all devices are equal. I find curved vibrators work best as they bend to target the G-spot zone. I always use lube with my sex toy, as it makes the experience more pleasurable and comfortable. I slather it on the toy and my pussy opening, to make sure I’m good to go.
I would suggest sliding the vibe in to a depth of around two inches, and pressing the bulbous tip toward the front vaginal wall. I move the vibrator around from side to side to find the perfect spot and I vary the pressure until it feels good.
Using a sex toy with a lover can be fun too, be it during foreplay or intercourse. You can insert the sex toy into your vagina (angling to the front wall), and encourage your lover to arouse your clitty.
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Alternatively, swap over - giving your lover access to the G-spot vibrator dance while you turn your attention to your beloved clit.
Stimulating more than one area usually provides additional arousal. Hitting the G-Spot whilst teasing the clit works well as both are part of the internal clitoral structure, and arousing the two areas simultaneously will boost your chance of reaching a knee-trembling orgasm.
Hit the G-spot
It might not be the easiest area to find, but the G-Spot isn’t as hidden away as some people think. Whilst its exact location varies from vagina to vagina, with a bit of patience and effort you should be able to find the special place.
The experience can be different for each person - some like the pace and pressure firm and fast, whilst others prefer slow and steady stimulation, and some aren’t keen at all.
As with every type of sexual play and technique you have to find what’s right for you. You will know when you hit the target - the G-Spot will fill with blood and swell, with the nerve-endings hyper sensitive and begging for arousal.
Whilst finding the G-spot can be difficult, it’s worth a go. However, try not to get to caught up on climaxing, as the old saying goes, enjoy the sexual journey rather than focusing solely on the destination.