20 erotic zones: How to find and stimulate them

It’s easy to focus on the obvious erogenous hot spots such as the genitals, ass and nipples, but there are plenty of other erotic zones to check out.

My personal favorites include my neck, and the crease of my butt cheeks, but everyone has their own unique erogenous map.

It’s always fun to set aside time for erogenous exploration, and here are 20 erotic zones with an outline of how to find and stimulate them.

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Scalp

I find it very relaxing when my lover gently brushes my hair, as long as there are no tangles or knots, and a scalp massage is divine too. I particularly enjoy it when my guy runs his fingernails gently over my scalp whilst moving his fingers in a circular motion.

Ears

Ears might not be considered sexy, but they can be sensitive as they boast hundreds of sensory receptors.

Ask your partner to try lightly licking, kissing and nibbling your earlobes. Get them to whisper naughty sex ideas to you whilst they do to turn up the sexual heat.

Mouth

I can’t talk about erogenous zones without mentioning the mouth. A pair of lips can be very appealing and exploring each other’s lips equals passionate fun.

Use your tongue to trace along your partner’s lips, pausing to gently nibble the lower lip before launching into a fervent kiss.

Armpits

Armpits don’t jump as a particular sexy spot, and if you’re super ticklish this one may be too much. I decided to give it a go and raised one arm above my head to relax.

My lover started at the wrist and snaked his way along my arm to my armpit, which was surprisingly sensual and sent a shiver down my spine.

Lower back

Be it a subtle stroke or a firm pressured massage with sensual oils, the lower back is an erogenous hot spot for me.

My friend, who seems to know a thing or two about anatomy suggests it’s because the nerves in this area are linked to the nerves in the pelvis. I’m not sure, but firm hands rubbing me there are always a winner.

Fingertips

You use your hands and fingertips to pleasure your partner by stroking, caressing and teasing, so it’s only fair your dutiful digits receive fun in return.

Nothing says come fuck me more than sucking your partners fingertips seductively one by one as you look them square in the eye.

Stomach

If you’re heading down to the genitals, you may as well make a pitstop at the stomach. The abdomen is surprisingly sensitive and I enjoy it when a lover uses their tongue and fingers to trace patterns all over my skin.

I’m not keen on my belly button being touched, but if you do you can always let your partner give it a good tonguing!

Nipples

Another classic erogenous zone, the nipples are usually responsive to touch. Tease the areola (the around the nipples) before inching your way to the nipples itself.

When you get there, you can lick, suck, and blow delicately. If your partner likes rougher play, try pinching, flicking, rubbing ice cubes over the nips or using your teeth.

Buttocks

My ass is a definite primary erogenous zone. I love a good rub, stroke and squeeze. If I’m in need of something harsher I’ll ask my lover to pinch my butt, deliver a few smacks, or use a spiky hairbrush or pinwheel to tease and torment.

Inner thighs

Just in the right spot, the inner thighs act as an introductory path to the genitals. They are super-sensitive and can be tantalized by tender touches, snaking your way from above the knee cap area all the way up to the juicing pussy.

Add in a few fleeting kisses and you’ll be revving up the sexual play nicely.

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Neck

A traditional erogenous zone, the neck is ripe for kissing, and if you gently plant kisses on mine I tingle all over.

I find it very sensual when my lover shimmies up behind me, wrapping his big arms around my waist before planting light and tender kisses on the nape of my neck.

Soles of feet

This one’s not for everyone - touching the soles of the feet can provoke a strong reaction. However, it can be arousing too.

I find the best way to approach it is via a foot rub. I ask my lover to start at the top of my feet and work his way round until he’s massaging my toes and soles too.

Inner wrist

The inner wrist is a lesser-known erotic zone but if you run your nails lightly over it you should feel a pleasurable tickle. Try maintaining eye contact with your partner whilst caressing the skin on their inner wrist for an intimate moment.

Behind the knee

Another tickly spot for some, but more arousing for others, the area behind the knee isn’t commonly known for being an erogenous spot.

If you feel a bit strange going straight to the knee, try kicking things off with a soothing calf and thigh massage, slowly working your way to the area.

Perineum

Penis owners often like their perineum touched (the sensitive skin between the anus and scrotum). Approach this one delicately as too much pressure could be painful.

Stroke the perineum in a back-and-forth motion whilst you’re delivering a blow job or give it a gentle caress during sex.

Prostate

The prostate is found at the internal root of the cock and you’ll need some anal play to have things moving.

Use a finger or two or an anal vibrator such as a prostrate vibrator to get the party started. Insert into the anus and gently push toward the front wall.

Testicles

You have to be very delicate with the balls, but play with them right and your partner will love you forever.

A gentle squeeze or light massage should send things in the right direction and you can gently run a finger along the seam of the scrotum for added pleasure.

Lapping this area with your tongue can work wonders when you’re giving head.

G-spot

The famous G Spot gets a lot of acclaim, and can reward you with memorable orgasms – if you can find it. I tend to use lubed fingers bent upwards or a vibrator (curve-shaped is best) to get to the right place.

A penis can make it there too, but you may need to practice, which is a great excuse for more sex.

A-spot

You’ve heard of the G-Spot but what about the A-Spot? More formally known as the anterior fornix the A-Spot is found in the vagina and is jam packed with nerve endings.

Insert lubed fingers, a sex toy, or your lover’s cock into the pussy and apply pressure to the front wall, then gently thrust.

Clit

A powerhouse in the orgasm world, the clit is a small bud boasting thousands of nerve endings. I prefer a light touch on mine, if things get too intense it gets uncomfortable.

I gently rub the clit or use a vibrator designed to stimulate my love bud. If I’m having sex with my lover, I’ll often touch my clit (or they touch it for me) for extra sexual stimulation.

Map your erogenous zones

Now’s the time for erogenous exploration and discovery. Set off on a journey (whether solo or with your lover) to find the erotic zones that make you smile and turn you on.

It’s tempting to stick to tried and tested areas but it’s worth checking out new territory too.