Give me a dick to ride and Iβm a happy girl, but go down on me and Iβll be moaning and groaning like a banshee.
Oral sex on my vulva (or eating pussy as we all commonly call it) is intimate, pleasurable and usually turns me into a quivering mess.
Iβve been fortunate to give and receive, and whilst I love being eaten out, Iβm partial to a spot of rug munching myself.
If you want to turn your partner on and earn some impressive sexual brownie points, I would highly recommend learning how to eat pussy.
If youβre not sure where to start, donβt worry, let me give you a few top tips on how to drink from the furry cup.
Use your mouth to talk, not just eat pussy
This isnβt rocket science, but Iβm going to say it anyway: communication is key. Oral is always better when my lover and I can talk openly about sex and our desires.
Iβve had my share of generous and selfish lovers, and the ones who ask me what I like always hit the sexual hot spot more successfully.
Iβm not one for giving too much bossy direction, but I will offer subtle hints to encourage my lover and help them to deliver amazing oral.
This could involve verbal and non-verbal cues such as moans of pleasure to indicate βYes, please, I want more of that,β or a gentle tug of the hair to move their head to the left or right, adjust the pressure, or change the pace.
Take it slow and go with the flow
Eating someone out is not like attending an all-you-can-eat buffet. Donβt gobble and slurp your way through a tender vagina, instead savor it and take your time.
Foreplay isnβt just for standard cock-in-pussy sex; itβs also a great way to kick off oral fun.
Read: Foreplay: Why Is It Important & Hot Ideas To Try
Kiss and caress your other half, tease their erogenous zones, and whisper in their ear. Tell them you want to go down on them and lick them out until they beg to cum. Slowly kiss your way from the neck down the torso, tickling the nipples with your tongue before bypassing the genital area to plant delicate kisses on the thighs.
Read: Ways to play with the nipples & achieve nipple orgasm
Use your fingers to lightly stroke and gently part the legs, tickling the pussy with a finger or two before leaning in with the lips and tongue.
Donβt go gung-ho for the clit and lips, slowly build up rather than race in with a full-frontal vagina-inspired tongue bashing. Kiss and lick around the vulva and labia before heading for the highly sensitive clit.
Focus on the clit, but not exclusively
Weβve already celebrated the sensitivity of our favourite love bud, but the clit shouldnβt be the be and end all of your attention. I like it when my lover lavishes attention on all areas of my pussy, and when he does get going with the clit, I prefer him to vary the technique.
I have a sensitive clitty, so I like an indirect approach. Delicate, consistent licks work like a dream to turn me on, and when he circles his tongue over my nub, I can feel the waves of pleasure start to wash over me.
My friend prefers a more full-on approach and likes her partner to use his tongue to directly lap at her clit, bringing her off with vigour.
Youβll need to talk to your partner about this and work out the best technique for you β just remember, practice makes perfect.
Use your lips and tongue to lick, suck and fuck
While itβs tempting to use your tongue to do most of the work and just lick, your mouth has other parts and ways to provide pleasure.
Use your whole mouth e.g. your lips and tongue to provide different sensations by licking and sucking.
You can alternate between broad licks using the flat of your tongue and more focused, pointier tongue strokes with the tip. Suck gently on the genitals and move your lips over the pussy to change things up from time to time.
Find your rhythm
Consistency can lead to more powerful orgasms, so if you find a rhythm that seems to suit you and your partner, try sticking to it initially to see what happens.
Iβm not saying donβt experiment, as this is the route to dullness! Instead, try varying the speed and pressure to find out what feels good. When you find the magic formula, you can turn it on for guaranteed oral fun.
Let your fingers do the talking
You can use your fingers to add an extra element of fun, too. Use your digits to explore the G-Spot and gently stroke other areas while you get to work with your lips and tongue enthusiastically eating out pussy.
Read: 27 fingering techniques: How to finger vagina, anus & prostate
You can combine clit stimulation with internal play for a more intense sensation, try out different techniques to ring the changes and keep things fresh.
Bring out the toy bag
Sex toys can add to the oral delights, too. You can use a vibrator to tease areas of the pussy e.g. while you get busy with your lips and tongue.
Read: 5 ways to incorporate toys into oral sex (for every body)
Keep an eye and ear out for over-stimulation, or your partner looking uncomfortable. This play can be intense and youβll need to check in before and during to make sure everything is rosy in the garden.
Ready to chow down on a palatable pussy?
Iβm always excited when my lover drops to their knees to deliver outstanding oral. If itβs your first oral rodeo with your partner, you might take some time to get used to one another.
Up front discussion should help things along - donβt forget everyone has different likes and dislikes.
What one pussy loves another may hate, so take time to use your mouth for a discussion about oral sex, not just for licking out a tasty vagina.
Frequently asked questions about eating pussy
How should I start - whatβs the easiest way to kick things off?
Ask first, be specific (βCan I go down on you?β), and set a relaxed vibe. Warm up with kissing, neck and torso kisses, nipple play and gentle stroking of the inner thighs. Slow, deliberate foreplay makes oral sex way better.
My partner says βfocus on the clitβ - what do you actually do?
Vary it: start indirect (circles around the clit), then try broader flat-tongue strokes, then small focused flicks with the tip. Alternate licking with gentle suction and pauses. If the clit is very sensitive, stick to softer, steady contact and let them guide you.
How do I use fingers or toys while eating pussy without making things awkward?
Coordinate: one or two fingers inside with a gentle βcome-hitherβ Gβspot motion while your mouth handles the clit, or hold a small vibrator on the labia/clit while you lick. Use plenty of lube, keep nails short, and check in often. Start slow and add intensity only if it feels good.
Whereβs the Gβspot / βOβspotβ and how do I reach it?
The Gβspot is on the front (pubic) wall of the vagina, about 1β3 inches in. Use a curved finger motion toward the belly button (βcome-hitherβ) and combine with clitoral stimulation for best results. Not everyone experiences a Gβspot orgasm - experimentation and communication are key.
Is it safe to swallow vaginal fluids or lick my partner - are there STI risks?
Oral contact with genitals carries some STI risk (HPV, herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis can be transmitted orally). Swallowing vaginal fluid is generally not dangerous in itself, but testing, honest conversations and barriers (dental dams, flavored condoms) reduce risk. Avoid oral sex if you or they have open sores, recent infections, or active illnesses and get tested regularly if youβre sexually active with new or multiple partners.
How do I know when Iβm doing too much or the wrong thing?
Listen to verbal cues and moans, watch body language (tensing, pulling away), and ask short check-ins (βLike that?β). If they seem uncomfortable, back off or switch techniques. Find a steady rhythm they respond to, then stick to it - consistency often beats frantic variety.
Is it okay to eat vagina?
Generally yes; swallowing vaginal fluid isnβt usually harmful, but there is always some STI risk. If youβre worried, use barriers and get tested. (See: Better2Know)
How to make a girlβs private feel good?
Slow foreplay, varied clitoral and vulva stimulation, fingers/toys combined with oral, rhythm and checking in are the basics. Personal preference varies widely, so ask.
How do I find my Oβspot?
The Oβspot (often used for Gβspot) is on the front vaginal wall; try a curved finger motion and combine internal and clitoral stimulation. Not everyone experiences it the same way. (See: gynecology resources about Oβspot/Oβshot for clinical context.)
Is it healthy to lick your partner?
Oral sex is common and healthy when partners are informed and take precautions; remember STI risks and use protection or avoid contact if there are sores or infections. (See: public health guidance such as Better Health Channel)
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