How to use a wand vibrator, alone or with a partner

I have a variety of toys, and I must admit I have a soft spot for my bullet vibrator, but the wand vibrator is high on my list too. 

And today, I'll show you how to use a wand vibrator, alone or with a partner.

Wand vibrator basics

I like the feel of the solid shaft in my hand, and the rounded head is begging to be pushed against my pussy.

You might say it looks a bit like a microphone, and I can tell you from experience the wand vibrator will make you louder.

However, you’ll be moaning and groaning rather than singing. The shaft contains a powerful motor that powers the vibrations you feel when pushing the rounded head against your body.

Unlike bullet vibrators, you can’t insert this toy.

Wand vibrators are for external use only, so don’t be tempted to stick it in your vagina or anus. 

Rub the wand vibrator over your body and hit up your erogenous zones and you’re guaranteed a good time.

I love a toy that makes me cum, and I only buy gadgets that are durable and easy to clean.

When it comes to wand vibrators I go for nonporous materials, I usually opt for silicone, but you can buy ABS plastic, glass, and metal wands too. 

Porous sex toys can absorb bacteria, so I steer clear of those unless I can sterilize after every use.

I also check the devices I buy are phthalates-free. There’s been too much talk of phthalates (chemicals used to soften fabric) damaging people’s health, so I’d rather not take the risk. 

Read How do I clean and maintain my sex toys?

Creative ways to use a wand vibrator 

How to use wand vibrator for a solo play

You can use a wand vibrator for solo play to have fun with your lover, the toy can be used by all genders and orientations too, so it’s a versatile piece of kit. 

It doesn’t matter if I’m flying solo or enjoying partner fun, I like to engage in foreplay first. Getting in the mood is important to me, and helps me achieve an orgasm. I dim the lights, and play sensual music, or sometimes switch a porn movie on for background vibes.

I like a wand with a big head - they cover more surface area, which means more of my flesh gets a good tingling. 

I’ll often start by stripping off and reclining, before using the wand vibrator to tease various areas of my body. I’ll touch myself everywhere, especially the erogenous zones such as my inner thighs, as they’re  particularly sensitive. 

I begin with soft pressure and increase the intensity as I get more turned on.

Before long I’m using the wand to bring myself off, rubbing it against my clit, labia, and vulva until I cum.

As much as I enjoy playing with my wand, I’m not a selfish lover – I am happy to share my toy with my other half too. 

How to use wand vibrator with a partner

I’m an exhibitionist and I like nothing more than putting on a naughty show. Masturbating in front of someone can be hot for both of you.

I’ll slowly strip and touch myself, using the wand to heighten my pleasure.

Sometimes I’ll go all the way, encouraging my lover to wank as he watches. 

We also use the wand on each other, taking turns to buzz, tease, and torment. I like it when my partner uses the vibrator all over my body, and when he takes it to my genitals it doesn’t take me long to start fizzing.

In the spirit of returning the favor, I’ll often try and grab the wand before I climax and lay into him.

I’ll gently touch the wand vibrator against his inner thighs and chest.

I also use it in a few less obvious places such as the soles of his feet, and the palms of his hands. It’s good to change things up from time to time.

After a while I work my way towards his cock and balls, encouraging my lover to spread his legs so I can work my way upwards. I keep the vibrations light when closing in on his genitals, if the pulsations are too intense it can prove uncomfortable. 

We use wand vibrators as part of foreplay, and that often results in desperation for sex. 

Sometimes, we use the wand vibrator alongside penetrative sex, which can be amazing too.

I love getting down on all fours, my lover entering me with his stiff cock and fucking me from behind.

He reaches around, rubbing my clit with a vibrator, and the combination of his dick inside me and the pulsations on my love bud are enough to deliver a knee-trembling orgasm. 

Non-sexual use of a wand vibrator

Of course, it’s not all about orgasms (although let’s be honest we do love a good climax). We also use the wand vibrator as a massage tool.

If I’ve had a busy day, it’s so nice lying naked, face down on the bed. The wand travels along my shoulders and down my back.

The vibrations tremble against my bare butt and down my thighs and the back of my legs – bliss.

Top tips for using a wand vibrator 

Just like bullet vibrators, wand vibrators pack a punch, but you have to remember the wand is much bigger and more indiscreet.

You won’t be able to pop it in your pocket or smuggle it under your jumper for a quickie in the loos at lunchtime (if that’s your bag).

If you don’t mind going bigger and bolder you’ll be fine. 

Water-based sex lubricants are worth using too. You might generate your own love juices but it never hurts to use extra lubrication for smoother glide and added pleasure.

When you’re in the mood and lubed up you can get going. Take it slow and let the vibrations build on different areas of your body. 

Get used to the different vibrations and try out wand attachments if there are any.

After all, variety is the spice.

If the pulsations still feel too intense you can place something e.g. a towel or item of clothing between the wand and your bare skin. 

The vibrating wand will add some extra va-va-voom to your love life, it might not be enchanted but I’d certainly go so far as to say the wand works its magic and can produce spell-binding orgasms. 

So, I invite you to explore all wand vibrators or simply, the magic Magic Wand.

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